Friends: As an Inner Child Advocate people say their issues today have nothing to do with their childhood. They say, “That was so long ago, plus I’ve done so much work on it — it’s gone!” Then after the session they are shocked at how much energy about “long ago forgotten inner child issues” have been controlling their lives subconsciously all along.
EFT is an amazing way to clear them once and for all!
I’m reminded of the story that I learned from advocacy training back when I was the Director of a statewide non-profit organization…
There was a quiet and uneventful little town next to a river… One night one of the towns people were walking next to the river and a baby was floating down the river. He ripped off his coat and jumped in and saved the baby. The next day someone saw 2 babies floating down the river. Again, someone jumped in to rescue the babies. The next day, 4 babies… then 8 babies… then 16…
As caring and efficient as the townspeople were they set up a HUGE rescue operation.
They brought divers from the neighboring town to dive into the water and rescue the babies. They organized social workers to provide much needed adoption services and counseling. Local church groups created sewing circles and made blankets and clothes for the babies. The pastors blessed the operation and they talked about it in their sermons on Sundays.
Life went on… The rescue operation became a very important part of life in the little town.
One night at the town council meeting someone stood up and proposed that they put together a team of people and go up stream to find out where the babies were coming from. The Mayor said, “Oh, that’s a great idea. However we can’t spare anyone. Everyone is needed here!”
The person said, “Don’t you see, if we went up stream and found out where the babies are coming from we could stop the problem at the source. A town council member said, “No! No! We can’t spare a single pull a single person — if we pull anyone away from the rescue operation babies will drown. We need everybody here.”
And so the proposal was defeated. The townspeople never went up stream and found where the babies were coming from and they continued the very good work of rescuing babies. They rescued many babies but many, many more drowned.
As with emotional wounds we keep trying to mask them with alcohol, anti-depressants, smoking, over eating, high risk behavior, over working, etc. but we never go upstream and see what is causing the struggles that we are desperately trying to mask.
Are You Ready to Go Upstream and Get Some REAL Relief?
As an Inner Child Advocate I use EFT Tapping I go upstream as much as possible and I help my clients heal those wounds at a core level — getting to the heart of the matter. The clients feel calmer, more relaxed and peaceful!
A one hour introductory phone session is ONLY $75. You can FEEL the relief for yourself. Then other packages are available. If this sounds like a fit for you I invite you go to my website www.yourstrongestlife.com/testimonials What Gwen’s Clients are Saying. If you are ready to take a trip upstream with me, I look forward to hearing from you at firstname.lastname@example.org. Also if you’d like to work with me in person and live in the Tacoma, WA area:
Emotional Struggle is expensive…
Emotional Freedom is priceless!
Tapping Friends: Hi, have you wondered what it would be like to talk to someone who has completed the 6 session UNLOCK Your Invisible Money blocks course and see what their results looked like? Here’s your chance…
The following is a testimonial from a client who completed my the 6-session course. She was able to explain so well, in a step by step process, what she experienced and why my work as an Inner Child Advocate is beneficial in helping women to heal the money issues that they are struggling with today.I’m a writer, translator and shamanic facilitator, and when I started Gwen’s 6-session program called “UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks” I hadn’t had any paid work for 4 months, I was flat broke and had to ask my 90-year old mother for survival money, which made me feel “little”, powerless and ashamed. I felt stuck and blocked and I just couldn’t get past whatever it was that kept me locked in place.Session 1
I described my apparent inability to deal with money, from my current situation all the way back to when I was a teenager: I could never hold on to it, it always felt like I shouldn’t have it in the first place and I’ve never ever felt at ease with it. At the same time, I’ve always ended up in situations where I had to be responsible for the household income. Gwen listened, asked clarifying questions, jotted down a few things, and by the time I had finished my sorry tale, she was ready to tap with me: she’s a brilliant guide who homes straight in on what’s essential. I think what shocked me the most was a sudden blindingly obvious connection with an aspect of my dad’s life, in a way that I’d never have thought of. The other “aha” was an overwhelming reason why I would choose to remain broke right now: for the first time in my life, Mom is offering me unconditional support – not love exactly, but still! Why would I want to give that up?? I yawned and yawned and the release was tremendous.Coming from a family where “money” plays a central role (Dad was a bank director, Mom worked in a bank, 3 of us 4 children trained as bankers…)
I use “money” to compensate for the still unresolved and unmet needs of my early life, and “absence of money” to set me apart from family values I do not align with. Now that I can see this, it’s no longer such a desperate mess. The panic about my current situation, which was a 10+ and felt like a rigid shield all the way down the front of my body when we started, has gone. I came out of the session feeling hopeful – I CAN change this!
Big resistance! Skype kept cutting out, I felt utterly unsettled. Gwen tapped with me right through it; she kept me feeling safe until Skype worked just fine and I was calm again. I had no idea how scared I was to step out of my decades-old comfort zone even though it really doesn’t provide me with any “comfort”!
Who am I without being broke? I have no concept of being prosperous. Being broke is my safety net, my excuse for not doing stuff, and I’m clinging to it. Gwen has this great knack for homing in on the central issue and before I knew it, I was back at my first week in grammar school, aged 10, the country bumpkin among the smart city girls. I was made fun of and felt so totally “poor” and “wrong”, and there was nothing I could do about it; this was before my dad was promoted and we were only just scraping by, there was never any money to spare. My parents didn’t understand what my problem was; they felt I should be grateful to be able to go to such a good school. So I did the only thing I could do: I created a barrier like a suit of armour around me to keep me safe. I pretended I didn’t want any of that stupid stuff but secretly I yearned to be able to have beautiful things, go on trips, just be part of this other world. In other words, I acted as though I despised money but secretly I so wanted to have it. I still do.
That’s the connection. Never in a million years would I have figured this out by myself! I yawned and yawned – this is HUGE for me. I’m beginning to see what’s possible. I’m beginning to get an outline image of me being prosperous.
PS: I couldn’t remember the thing about my dad from last session, it had completely gone and to this day I have no idea what it was about. Talk about “clearing”!
Mega-intense session on the little girl in the suit of armour, an image Gwen had sent me in the wake of our last session. I’d just wanted to tell her how the image had resonated with me, but I burst into tears and with Gwen’s intuitive and skilled guidance I spiralled down the years to 5 years old, saying to Mom in my little-girl voice: “It doesn’t matter, don’t worry…” and Gwen completed it for me: “I can take it, I’ll do it, I can manage it, it’s all right – I’ll take the responsibility so that it’ll be all right.” And I’ve been doing that ever since: here I am, load me up, give me your inability to cope and let me do it for you. Emotionally, financially, practically, in any possible way. The pay-off for me was a) as a small child, I had a new role within my family after being usurped by my new and ill brother; and b) to this day it keeps me from having to sort out my own stuff. I’ve loaded myself up to the hilt with responsibility, clutter, work I’ve not a clue how to do, on behalf of not just me but also those around me who “can’t cope”. Like a red line all the way down my life: RESCUER AND CARRIER OF OTHER PEOPLE’S BURDENS.
I’ve tapped on this before, but on my own I automatically shut down before it gets really scary. We tapped and tapped and tapped, Gwen providing the words, me adding to it where required. Gwen devised an ingenious solution for my need for protection AND freedom: take the suit of armour off and hang it in the wardrobe, you can put it back on any time, though be aware that it may not fit anymore because you’ve outgrown it: it’s kept you little for all those years…
By the end of the session I felt softer and less held in, and a lot clearer and calmer.
We tapped on the vulnerability I feel when I’m “out there” as just me, and an old nightmare re-appeared that had dogged my sleep from small child into my thirties, only this time I suddenly knew “that’s not my stuff” and realized I was carrying someone else’s unfinished experience and we tapped on my remaining need to carry other people’s burdens until it was gone.
We also tapped on my fears in connection with me going “live” as a shamanic practitioner. What if I’m not good enough, what if I can’t help others, what if this isn’t what I’m for after all – at which point the great black hole appeared: if not this, then what?? Fear, Fear, Fear.
Tapping to Gwen’s intuitive words, chasing the physical expressions of this “fear” around my body and finally coming to a point of peace – all of it enabled me to let go of most of this fear (from off-the-chart 10+ to maybe a 2), and helped me realize that at my core I do know who I am.
By the end of our session I felt as though a great weight had peeled off me, so much calmer, so much more able to stride out: I AM good enough – I AM this.
My opening line was: I seem to be blocking money coming in, I procrastinate instead of taking action that would result in work coming my way, and I can’t seem to get out of this overwhelming lethargy.
Gwen made the connection to the desperation I must feel before I “kick into action” – my adult self taking over to once again “save the day” but Little Gitta (LG) will do her level best to prevent an easy flow of abundance because she’s still waiting for her prince/princess to rescue her and take care of her. This turned out to be central: money and love are interchangeable for me – love me, value me, validate me, cherish me, look after me, keep me safe: I feel that I have no value. At the same time, I totally reject this love = money concept. Things flashed up faster than I could handle them. LG 3 years old, shoved aside roughly by an overwhelmed and worried mother in her haste to get to her ill new son. No explanation, no cuddle, just: get out of the way. LG translates this to, you’re not who I love, you have no value, you’re just in the way. My constant worry about my work: what if I can’t give value? A giant fear called I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH. And Gwen providing the words to guide me through the mess, to help me differentiate Little Gitta from Adult Gitta, then from now, fear from love. Tapping the fear down, allowing me to see my bewildered and dejected 3-year-old self from my adult vantage point.
I see my 3-year-old’s yearning to be taken care of, which is at odds with the brave little warrior girl in the suit of armour who is fighting for survival by keeping everything at arm’s length, and I see my adult self’s yearning to be strong, connected, happy and prosperous constantly at odds with those two earlier parts of me. We tap into a position of peace: I thank my 3-year-old and my little warrior girl for keeping me safe all those years, and I allow them to move on. I let them go. The relief is profound.
This is our final session – and I blurt out that I still feel second-best, that I still feel on the outside, looking in. Gwen asks me when I first felt like this, quick-quick without “thinking”, and there I am, sitting alone on the stairs while everyone else is “inside”, having dinner or fun or something, and I felt unfairly treated, resentful, sad, lonely and utterly helpless: they were in there and I wasn’t allowed to be with them so there must be something wrong with me – second-best, never allowed to shine, somehow I just didn’t measure up. Which morphed into this other dreadful nightmare from my growing-up years and well into adulthood: the high featureless white wall with the unreachable entrance; all of life and fun and happiness going on inside and I was on the outside, no way in. I was small and so utterly alone, so excluded, so hopeless. The intensity was around 8, a feeling of dread in my belly and throat. We tapped and tapped and what it most strongly connected with was overwhelm. And Gwen, beautiful clever intuitive gifted Gwen, flipped the image from a wall that excluded me, made by others to shut me out, to one I’d put there to keep me safe from the overwhelming assault of all the incomprehensible stuff coming at me thick and fast from all sides: I was a hypersensitive child and utterly alone with it. I did the best I could to keep myself safe. The feeling of dread changed to one of gratitude, and the intensity dwindled down to nothing.
I remembered a recent family celebration where I sat amongst relatives and friends; some I love, some not so much, and I was aware of the strong connections between most of them whereas I, having lived abroad for over 3 decades, was more “on the outside, looking in” – and I realized that it didn’t trigger me. I was all right with it! It didn’t feel like a reflection on my value. This realization has stayed with me ever since: I don’t have to be “included” in everything to feel valued, it’s safe to let stuff play out without me. I can just be as I am, let others be how they are, and it’s all right. How cool is that??
Tapping with Gwen I became aware of connections I couldn’t see before. We would clear the associated panic and fear so that I could honor and accept the original old feeling, send it love, and allow myself to see my reaction as my small-child self doing the best she could to keep herself safe in often incomprehensible and overwhelming situations. This brought me to a feeling of peace about it. I felt the profound relief of that old assumption, that old belief being released from every cell of my being.
You’ll notice how, even though this program is about clearing money blocks, it’s really about so much more: the money blocks are just the visible part of the iceberg and as the session’s progress, you’ll uncover root causes you were not aware of, and you release them. As a result, your attitude towards money changes. With me, the customary feeling of dread connected with “lack” and “never enough” I used to wake up with and go to sleep with has quietly slipped away. I no longer feel that I’m incapable of allowing prosperity into my life.
And if you should wonder whether this has resulted in any hard cash: as a result of me allowing a “maybe” where before I could only see a harsh “no way” I now have a steady monthly income that pays my basic bills, and after months of nothing I now have two book translations and a website-update translation lined up.
My website for shamanic work is not finished yet but I’m much less cagey about this part of me. Overall, a massive weight has shifted off my life as a direct result of daring to UNLOCK My Invisible Money Blocks with Gwen.
~Gitta Wolf, Germany
I want to give Gitta a great big thank you for inviting you into her private journey. I sincerely hope it was helpful for you. Please let me know if this sounds like a good fit for you and how I can be of help. The 6 Session UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks package is done via phone, Skype or Face time from the comfort and privacy of your own home or office. The investment is 3 monthly payments of $ 275 or one full payment of only $750. Remember, one hour of tapping = 100 hours of talk therapy! Your Strongest Life accepts VISA, MasterCard, American Express and Discover. There is limited space so if you’d like to get started right away please email me at email@example.com NOW to make sure you are first on the list!
PS For those of you who live in the Tacoma area I’ll be doing more live classes at the end of the month at Crystal Voyage and Good Karma Center for Joy. More info coming next week.
*|FNAME|* As healers, holistic practitioners and coaches many of us aren’t as focused on money as many other people are. We tend to be more focused on helping people and making a difference and the money seems to go on the back burner.
Money isn’t the most important thing in the world yet it definitely does impact everything that is!
Do you consider money a good thing or a not so good thing? Actually it’s like everything else, it’s energy and neutral.
The meaning behind money is the meaning we give it [very often as a young child]. It’s typically subconscious (invisible), often outdated and based on information that we weren’t even aware of back then.
The Ham Story
Two women, neighbors, were in the kitchen visiting over a cup of coffee. As they were chatting the women who lived there started making dinner. She pulled out a ham from the oven, cut the ends off of it, put it in the pan and put it in the oven. Her friend looked at her funny and asked, “Why did you cut the ends off the ham?” The homeowner thought a minute and said quizzically, “I don’t know, my mom always did it!“
Just like our friend in the Ham Story we learn about money from our parents in much the same way.
Dr Bruce Lipton PhD author of Biology of Belief talks about our childhood programs and that before we are 7 years old we are walking around in a hypnotic state absorbing 100% of everything we experience and download it into our subconscious mind as our TRUTH (from a young child’s perspective).
My Money Story
When I was about 6 years old my Dad, a very hard working guy, got laid off from work. He was forced to turn to community service in return for food subsidies — peanut butter, cheese, beans, etc. I could feel his SHAME even though I didn’t understand why. My experience led me to grow up to be the director of a state wide legislative advocacy organization to help low income single parents advocate for themselves and their families. It wasn’t until years later that I made the connection that I was really passionately advocating — for my dad!! That is part of my money story…
Your Money Story
As a child did your parents ever fight about money? How did that make you feel?
Did you grow up where you were comfortable financially or did you struggle?
Think back to when you were a little girl and fill in the blanks:
- My mom’s thoughts about money was: _______________________
- My dad’s thoughts about money was: ________________________
- Money equals: ____________________________
- In my family money caused: ________________________________
That’s part of your money story and your money blocks and where it all started.
Are those money beliefs still serving you or are you ready to update them at a core level with EFT Tapping?
UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks Classes:
I invite you to join me for my UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks classes in 2 ways:
#1) Weekly tele-seminars on Fridays 10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern from
the comfort and privacy of your own home or office. OR….
To register click HERE.
#2) If you live in the Tacoma area, join me for a live class at Crystal Voyage on
Thurs. Oct 6th at 5:30pm. 3802 S Cedar St, Tacoma, WA
To register email firstname.lastname@example.org
Both ONLY $25 each.
I look forward to helping you UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks
Money Blocks are expensive…
Emotional Freedom is priceless!
Woo hoo! Your Strongest Life has gone video!! I like to talk way more than I like to write so from now on out my newsletters are gonna come in a 3-5 minute video which I hope will make it so much easier for you and for me!
Today I’m popping into your life to invite you to my weekly teleseminiars UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks.
Click HERE to Register
Are you a woman healer, holistic practitioner or heart centered entrepreneur? You are doing what you love (or you want to do what you love) but that money piece is getting in your way.
- Do you often give away your services
- Do you find ways to avoid dealing with money altogether by bartering?
- Do you tend to sabotage things when they have to do with money?
- Do you feel like you are just not good with money?
Or my personal favorite:
- Money just doesn’t motivate me!
I hear ya! Money isn’t the most important thing in the world, however, in our current society money IS connected to everything that is.
Click HERE to Register
Money dictates what kind of house we live in, what neighborhood we live in, what types of foods we can buy, our ability to pay our light bill. Money dictates what kind of transportation we have, how we get from here to there. The gifts we’d like to make or give to our loved ones. Our health care, our families health care our pets health care. If your pets are anything like mine…they are family!
Money dictates how we grow our business, how many people we are able to help and what kind of a difference we are able to make in the world.
So how is your invisible money story preventing you from living Your Strongest Life? Are you ready to shift it at a core level? If this sounds like it might be a fit for you I’d like to invite you to join us on Friday’s at 10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern and
- learn how to tap on your own money issues
- volunteer and we can work on your specific money blocks. or…
- you can simply join us and tap along and receive “borrowing benefits”
Click HERE to Register
I look forward to tapping along with you and helping you UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks!
Friend: Are you a woman Healer, Holistic Practitioner or Heart Centered Entrepreneur and experience constant anxiety about money? Are you not earning your potential doing what you love? (Remember earning your potential is relative, you can be earning 6 figures and still feel like you are not earning your potential). I invite you to read the following short story about Kathryn, taken from Margaret Lynch’s book Tapping into Wealth and see if you can relate:
Even if you have a good income, old issues can trigger severe negative emotions that keep you from enjoying what you have and hurt your well-being. For example, Kathryn earned a good living as a consultant and had a great retirement plan. But she admitted to having constant anxiety about money. When she was asked to write down her income, she immediately felt fear and anxiety. A familiar phrase repeated in her head: “Right around the corner, the other show is going to drop.” As she said it, her eyes welled with tears and her voice began to shake as old memories surfaced.
She explained, “This is just how it is, and has been this way since childhood.” Kathryn believed that no matter how much you make, there will always be something that falls out of the sky to take your money — a bill, car repair, injury, taxes, etc. And she believed it would take every last cent she had. To her, no matter how much you make, you can never rest, relax or stop worrying because there will never be enough. As she shared this, she was resigned to this being her inescapable fate. Her emotions escalated as she recalled childhood memories of watching her mother live with a black cloud of worry and fear from the same living-hand-to-mouth mentality, and viewing her life through the lens of just getting by.
Regardless of how much Kathryn’s income and her level of financial security with her husband increased over the years, she experienced constant anxiety and insomnia from worrying about when the other show would drop and eat up all her income and maybe even her savings. The effect on her health was profound. Worrying about money was the primary reason she was on medication for anxiety and insomnia.
After addressing this with Tapping, Kathryn reported sleeping for 12 straight hours that night. She laughed about how her husband eventually woke her to make sure she was okay. As her stress and obsessive worry faded away, she was able to fall asleep easily and finally enjoy the financial security she worked hard to create.
UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks
If you can relate to Kathryn’s story and would like to learn about and experience some UNLOCKING Your Invisible Money Blocks with EFT Tapping I’d like to invite you to the upcoming workshops: Click HERE to read more.
- Live workshop at Crystal Voyage in Tacoma Thurs Sept 8th 5:30-7:00pm 3802 S Cedar ST, Tacoma, WA 98409 ONLY $25 Click to Register: http://crystalvoyage.com/calendar/#event|unlock-your-invisible-money-blocks-with-eft-tapping-helping-women-break-free-from-old-emotional-baggage-that-is-still-running-their-lives|1182 to register.
- Teleseminars: Weekly Teleseminars from the comfort and privacy of your own home or office on Friday’s 10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern Click to Register: http://www.yourstrongestlife.com/teleseminar/
I look forward to tapping with you!
Constant Anxiety about Money is expensive… Emotional Freedom is priceless!
Do you live in the Tacoma, WA area?
Are you a women healer, holistic practitioner or heart centered entrepreneur and doing what you love (or wanting to) but the money piece is getting in your way?
UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks with EFT Tapping: Helping women break free from old emotional baggage that is still running their lives
Do you ever:
Give away your services?
Find ways to avoid dealing with money altogether by bartering?
Tend to sabotage yourself around money?
Do you feel like you just aren’t good with money?
You are frequently in financial pain or stress?
You aren’t earning your potential?
OR… you feel that money just doesn’t motivate you?
I get it — money isn’t the most important thing in the world, however in our society it’s connected with everything that IS!
I invite you to join me at Crystal Voyage for the interactive workshop UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks with EFT Tapping: Helping women break free from old emotional baggage that is still running their lives
Thursday Sept 8th @ 5:30 pm – 7:00 pm
In this interactive class you will learn and experience the basics of EFT [Emotional Freedom Technique] Tapping, be a volunteer and tap with Gwen on your specific money blocks or simply receive “borrowing benefits” for tapping along.
The beauty of EFT is that you can use it on just about everything; to clear anxiety and stress OR go deeper and uncover and clear subconscious issues that are keeping you stuck in your career, relationships, health and even your MONEY BLOCKS!
Class Fee: ONLY $ 25
Registration Contact Information:
PS Or… join me on the phone from the comfort and privacy of your own home or office for UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks Weekly Teleseminars on Friday’s 10:30am Pacific / 1:30 Eastern.
Over the past several weeks you’ve read about the ACES study [Adverse Childhood Experiences] and and the results. You’ve answered the questionnaires to find your own ACE score and you’ve also learned that there IS something that you can do about those old belief systems to help re frame and reset the emotional childhood programs that you got from those experiences at a deep level… EFT Tapping.
Now I’m here to share with you a quote: “How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything” by the author of the book and workshop series Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T Harv Eckert.
The ACES Study and Money? Are you crazy Gwen? What in the heck would my adverse childhood experiences have to do with my money situation? Well, let’s take a look:
- If your house is a mess chances are pretty good that your relationships are a mess too and your job or career is a mess, your health is most likely a mess and when it comes to your finances there is a pretty good chance that you are also very unorganized and a mess.
- If you tend to procrastinate in one area of your life, it’s a pretty sure bet that you also procrastinate in all the other areas of your life too. Or if you are fearful in one area of your life… and so on and so on…
We do EVERYTHING based on our internal beliefs — even money!
The core of our internal beliefs are actually the automatic programs that were taught to us or we learned at a very young age based on our early childhood experiences. There are definitely helpful programs that we learned like automatically brushing our teeth, getting dressed, eating our breakfast and tying our shoes first thing every morning. It wouldn’t be very productive to have to re-learn to do those things over every morning. However, many of those programs are no longer serving us like being messy, procrastinating and being afraid – even our money beliefs! When we are able to become consciously aware of how much those old emotional programs are keeping us stuck from living our strongest lives, that’s when we are ready to do something about them.
As T Harv says, “if you want to get rid of procrastination you have to replace it with something better” and he talks about affirmations. Training your brain to think differently so you get different results. However, affirmations are a thinking process in our conscious mind. Our beliefs, however, are feelings in our sub-conscious mind, and we aren’t consciously aware of them but they control 95% of our perception and behavior!
Our conscious and sub-conscious mind
Our conscious mind (above the water line) controls
only 5% of our perception and behavior. However, the sub-conscious mind (below the water line) controls 95% of our perception and behavior. THAT’S where ALL the beliefs live, both supportive and limiting. And we are working with both with EFT Tapping.UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks tele-seminar
–Are you a women who is doing what you love yet earning less than your potential? (Remember, it’s relative. You can be earning 6 figures yet be earning less than your potential.)
–Are you passionate about Making A Difference yet you underestimate your value & worth and suffer with self doubt?
–Do you feel a bit trapped or stuck, like you have blinders on regarding your possibilities and options around money?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions, and you are ready to get started clearing them once and for all sub-consciously, this one hour tele-seminar may be a good fit for you!Join us on Friday August 12th at 10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern ONLY $25 for a one-hour tele-seminar and you will:
- Learn how to do basic EFT tapping.
- Get relief as a volunteer working on your own specific emotional obstacles
- Get “borrowing benefits” from tapping along with the volunteers.
- The recording will be posted on the website for 7 days.
To register: http://www.yourstrongestlife.com/teleseminar/. An email will be sent to you with the code for the call and a 3 minute How to Tap video before the call.
Money isn’t the most important thing in the world but it impacts everything that is. I look forward to helping you get out of your own emotional way about money.
PS: ALSO IN PERSON. If you live in the Tacoma area, I’ll also be doing an UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks workshop in person Thursday August 18th — the following week — 5:30 – 7:00pm at Crystal Voyage 3802 South Cedar St, Tacoma, WA (corner of 38th Street and South Cedar). ONLY $25. Limited space. Please email me at email@example.com with Crystal Voyage in subject line to register. Look forward to seeing you there!
Emotional Freedom Coach
& Inner Child Advocate
You have learned over the past several weeks about the ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) study and the link between childhood adverse experiences or trauma and the chronic diseases and social and emotional problems people develop in adulthood as a result.
You’ve also answered the 10 questions and gotten your own ACE score. You may have started to connect the dots as to why you may be struggling with some of the emotional or physical issues that you are and where they may have started. There may be some early emotional traumas or wounds at the heart of it and it’s been subconscious and you aren’t even consciously aware of it. And hopefully you’ve gotten a bit of information about how it may NOT be the life sentence that we once thought it was and there is hope for some relief with EFT Tapping.
However, what if you can’t relate to these extreme childhood experiences that were listed on the ACE questionnaire:
- What if you did not experience a parent swearing, insulting, putting you down or humiliating you before the age of 18.
- What if you weren’t afraid that you may have be physically hurt.
- What if you weren’t grabbed, slapped or hit or watched your mom be.
- What if you were never fondled or touched in an inappropriate sexual way.
- you always had enough to eat, clean clothes to wear and someone to protect you. …you always felt loved, special and important …your parents didn’t drink or take drugs
- you never felt abandoned through divorce or other reasons (physically or emotionally) and you never experienced stress or depression from your parents
Remember, traumas aren’t always as extreme as we might think. According to Dr. Robert Scaer MD, trauma specialist, trauma, especially as a small child under the age of 7 or 8, can be anything that makes them feel helpless, powerless or overwhelmed, or that their own safety or the safety of someone they love is in jeopardy. When I first learned this I thought to myself, I wonder if there is anyone in the entire world who didn’t feel those feelings at one time or another as a small child? I don’t believe there is.
The questions in the ACE study tend to blend between big “T” traumas (highly identifiable and catastrophic events, including severe physical abuse, rape, extreme injury, witnessing violence, or an unexpected death of a relative or friend. Vivid and explicit memories usually, but not always, surround this type of trauma. And little “t” traumas, or chronic and insidious experiences that are less about one identifiable event and more about reoccurring painful situations or experiences. This can include ongoing criticism, neglect from parents or caregivers, being bullied or teased, or living with an alcoholic, drug addicted family member or someone with a medical or mental illness. The ongoing nature and the more “acceptable” aspect of this type of trauma often makes it more difficult to identify and treat.
However, the more EFT Tapping I do for myself and my clients, especially the Inner Child Advocacy work, the more clearly I can see how little “t” or chronic traumas can have a huge impact on us and our daily lives. The simplest look, comment, or emotional experience from our parents, older siblings, older relatives or other authority figures such as teachers, coaches, religious leaders, etc. can be devastating to a small child and that child can carry those subconscious “wounds” in their bodies for the rest of their lives.
Those are the buttons that get pushed and INSTANTLY the emotional intensity seems to come from nowhere and flood our bodies. People say to me all the time, that happened so long ago, what could it possibly have to do with what I’m doing today? Well, actually those wounds from our childhood have EVERYTHING to do with our adult perceptions and behaviors and they tend to subconsciously color and control our adult careers, relationships, financial life as well as our emotional and physical health. Dr. Bruce Lipton PhD cellular biologist and author of The Biology of Belief calls them “childhood programs”. As the ACE study tells us, “a whopping two thirds of the 17,000 people in the ACE Study had an ACE score of at least one — 87 percent of those had more than one.” It’s much more common than we ever realize. We are truly all in this together!
If you’ve tried talk therapy and still feel like there is something quite not right you may be still carrying some of those invisible small t trauma’s in your body. What if you could get some relief with EFT? How might that positively impact your life?
PS Being STUCK in your emotional past is expensive… Emotional Freedom is priceless!
An ACE score is a tally of different types of abuse, neglect, and other hallmarks of a rough childhood. According to the Adverse Childhood Experiences study, the rougher your childhood, the higher your score is likely to be and the higher your risk for later (mental and physical) health problems.The most important thing to remember is that the ACE score is meant as a guideline: If you experienced other types of toxic stress over months or years, then those would likely increase your risk of physical and mental health consequences
1) Before your 18th birthday, did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you?
act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt?
2) Before your 18th birthday, did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often…
push, grab, slap, or throw something at you?
ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured?
3) Before your 18th birthday, did an adult or person at least five years older than you ever…
touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way?
attempt or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse with you?
4) Before your eighteenth birthday, did you often or very often feel that…
no one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special?
your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other?
5) Before your 18th birthday, did you often or very often feel that…
you didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you?
your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?
6) Before your 18th birthday, was a biological parent ever lost to you through divorce, abandonment, or other reason?
7) Before your 18th birthday, was your mother or stepmother:
often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her?
sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard?
ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife?
8) Before your 18th birthday, did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic, or who used street drugs?
9) Before your 18th birthday, was a household member depressed or mentally ill, or did a household member attempt suicide?
10) Before your 18th birthday, did a household member go to prison?
Give one point for every yes and total them up. That is your ACE Score.
Now that you’ve got your ACE score, what does it mean?
As you’ve read over the past few weeks in my blog post, the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACE Study) uncovered a stunning link between childhood trauma and the chronic diseases people develop as adults, as well as social and emotional problems. This includes heart disease, lung cancer, diabetes and many autoimmune diseases, as well as depression, violence, being a victim of violence, and suicide.
The first research results were published in 1998, followed by 57 other publications through 2011. They showed that:
- childhood trauma was very common, even in employed white middle-class, college-educated people with great health insurance;
- there was a direct link between childhood trauma and adult onset of chronic disease, as well as depression, suicide, being violent and a victim of violence;
- more types of trauma increased the risk of health, social and emotional problems.
- people usually experience more than one type of trauma – rarely is it only sex abuse or only verbal abuse.
A whopping two thirds of the 17,000 people in the ACE Study had an ACE score of at least one — 87 percent of those had more than one. Eighteen states have done their own ACE surveys; their results are similar to the CDC’s ACE Study.
The study’s researchers came up with an ACE score to explain a person’s risk for chronic disease. Think of it as a cholesterol score for childhood toxic stress. You get one point for each type of trauma. The higher your ACE score, the higher your risk of health and social problems. (Of course, other types of trauma exist that could contribute to an ACE score, so it is conceivable that people could have ACE scores higher than 10; however, the ACE Study measured only 10 types.)
As your ACE score increases, so does the risk of disease, social and emotional problems. With an ACE score of 4 or more, things start getting serious. The likelihood of chronic pulmonary lung disease increases 390 percent; hepatitis, 240 percent; depression 460 percent; suicide, 1,220 percent.
(By the way, lest you think that the ACE Study was yet another involving inner-city poor people of color, take note: The study’s participants were 17,000 mostly white, middle and upper-middle class college-educated San Diegans with good jobs and great health care – they all belonged to the Kaiser Permanente health maintenance organization.)
The GOOD NEWS:
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or more commonly called tapping is a low-risk acupressure technique that calms the limbic structures of the brain, enabling clients to regulate their over-aroused systems, and eliminating the flashbacks, nightmares and terror that plague traumatized adults and children. EFT is a trauma-focused practice grounded in neuroscience research and Eastern preventive medicine that engages neuroplasticity to restore development. ~School of Social Welfare University of Albany
When danger threatens – or when traumatic memories surface which make our current situation “feel” dangerous — the amygdala (threat control center in the brain) sends out signals that stimulate cortisol production, putting us into fight or flight. When we are emotionally “triggered” in this way, when an event in the present reminds our subconscious of (say) a childhood trauma, we often go into a painful fight or flight “freak out,” even though we’re not in danger right now. Dr. David Feinstein, clinical psychologist, say’s that ancient acupuncture, and tapping on acupressure points (EFT Tapping) biologically calms the brain. Dr. Feinstein and his Harvard colleagues who have done lab studies believe EFT tapping stimulates the production of hormones which message the amygdala that our situation is actually safe, so the amygdala stops the cortisol flood and turns down or off the threat response.
If you are interested in having a chat about EFT and to see if it would be beneficial for you please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or text 253-441-9963 and let’s set up a complimentary 30 minute phone conversation. Let’s see if this may be a good fit for you. Perhaps those painful emotional buttons that were installed in childhood and have gotten pushed over and over and over since you were a young child protected you when you needed protected but perhaps aren’t serving you anymore. As an Inner Child Advocate I look forward to hearing from you! I understand, I’ve been there and EFT has been a life saver for me and it continues to be. You never know when those internal triggers, or buttons, will get pushed. It’s wonderful to have a tool to help you calm yourself, often in moments, instead of hours, days or weeks or especially years.
Fear is expensive… Emotional Freedom is priceless!
PS Please note: if you have overwhelming trauma, do NOT tap alone! Use a trained practitioner, or don’t tap. Mammals are not built to be alone, period; it’s just not safe to feel really extreme feelings alone. Your results may vary because every person is different, however, people with others to support them tend to get better results.
Changing the Landscape of Understanding Human Development
This is Part Three of a three-part overview of the Center for Disease Control’s Adverse Childhood Experience Study — the ACE Study. “Adverse childhood experiences” has become a buzzword in social services, public health, education, juvenile justice, mental health, pediatrics, criminal justice, medical research and even business. Many people say that just as you should know your cholesterol score, so you should know your ACE score. But what is the ACE Study? And do you know your own ACE score?
In the last 14 years (at the time of this writing), Drs. Robert Anda, Vincent Felitti and researchers at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention have published more than 60 papers about the CDC’s Adverse Childhood Experiences Study in prestigious peer-reviewed journals, including the Journal of the American Medical Association and the American Journal of Preventive Medicine. Other researchers have referenced their work more than 1,500 times. Anda and Felitti have flown around the U.S., Canada and Europe to give hundreds of speeches.
Their inquiry “changed the landscape,” says Dr. Frank Putnam, director of the Mayerson Center for Safe and Healthy Children at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center and professor at the University of Cincinnati Department of Pediatrics. “It changed the landscape because of the pervasiveness of ACEs in the huge number of public health problems, expensive public health problems —- depression, substance abuse, STDs, cancer, heart disease, chronic lung disease, diabetes.”
The ACE Study became even more significant with the publication of parallel research that provided the link between why something that happened to you when you were a kid could land you in the hospital at age 50. The stress of severe and chronic childhood trauma – such as being regularly slapped or punched, constantly belittled and berated, watching your father beat up your mother – releases hormones that physically damage a child’s developing brain.
Fight, Flight or Freeze hormones are good, but become Toxic when they’re turned on for too long
Flight, fight or freeze hormones work really well to help us accelerate when we’re being chased by a vicious dog with big teeth, fight when we’re cornered, or turn to stone and stop breathing to escape detection by a predator. But they become toxic when they’re turned on for too long.
As San Francisco pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris recently explained to host Ira Glass on the NPR radio program, This American Life, if you’re in a forest and see a bear, a very efficient fight or flight system instantly floods your body with adrenaline and cortisol and shuts off the thinking portion of your brain that would stop to consider other options. This is very helpful if you’re in a forest and you need to run from a bear. “The problem is when that bear comes home from the bar every night,” she said.
If a bear threatens you every single day, your emergency response system is activated over and over and over again. You’re always ready to fight or flee from the bear, but the part of your brain – the prefrontal cortex – that’s called upon to diagram a sentence or do math becomes stunted, because, in brains, emergencies – such as fleeing bears – take precedence over doing math.
For Harris’ patients who had four or more categories of adverse childhood experiences “their odds of having learning or behavior problems in school were 32 times as high as kids who had no adverse childhood experiences,” she told Glass.
Together, the two discoveries – the epidemiology of the ACE Study and the brain research — reveal a story too compelling to ignore:
Children with toxic stress live much of their lives in fight, flight or fright (freeze) mode.
Children with toxic stress live much of their lives in fight, flight or fright (freeze) mode. They respond to the world as a place of constant danger. With their brains overloaded with stress hormones and unable to function appropriately, they can’t focus on learning. They fall behind in school or fail to develop healthy relationships with peers or create problems with teachers and principals because they are unable to trust adults. Some kids do all three. With despair, guilt and frustration pecking away at their psyches, they often find solace in food, alcohol, tobacco, methamphetamine, inappropriate sex, high-risk sports, and/or work and over-achievement.
They don’t regard these coping methods as problems. Consciously or unconsciously, they use them as solutions to escape from depression, anxiety, anger, fear and shame.
What all this means, says Anda, is that we need to prevent adverse childhood experiences and, at the same time, change our systems – educational, criminal justice, healthcare, mental health, public health, workplace – so that we don’t further traumatize someone who’s already traumatized. You can’t do one or the other and hope to make any progress.
“Dr. Putnam is right — ACEs changed the landscape,” Anda says. “Or perhaps the many publications from the ACE Study opened our eyes to see the truth of the landscape. ACEs create a “chronic public health disaster”that until recently has been hidden by our limited vision. Now we see that the biologic impacts of ACEs transcend the traditional boundaries of our siloed health and human service systems. Children affected by ACEs appear in all human service systems throughout the lifespan — childhood, adolescence, and adulthood — as clients with behavioral, learning, social, criminal, and chronic health problems.”
But our society has tended to treat the abuse, maltreatment, violence and chaotic experiences of our children as an oddity instead of commonplace, as the ACE Study revealed, notes Anda. And our society believes that these experiences are adequately dealt with by emergency response systems such as child protective services, criminal justice, foster care, and alternative schools. “These services are needed and are worthy of support — but they are a dressing on a greater wound,” he says.
“A hard look at the public health disaster calls for the both the prevention and treatment ACEs,” he continues. “This will require integration of educational, criminal justice, healthcare, mental health, public health, and corporate systems that involves sharing of knowledge and resources that will replace traditional fragmented approaches to burden of adverse childhood experiences in our society.”
As Williamson, the epidemiologist who introduced Felitti and Anda, and also worked on the ACE Study, says: “It’s not just a social worker’s problem. It’s not just a psychologist’s problem. It’s not just a pediatrician’s problem. It’s not just a juvenile court judge’s problem.” In other words, this is everybody’s problem.
According to a CDC study released earlier this year, just one year of confirmed cases of child maltreatment costs $124 billion over the lifetime of the traumatized children. The researchers based their calculations on only confirmed cases of physical, sexual and verbal abuse and neglect, which child maltreatment experts say is a small percentage of what actually occurs.
The Most Hopeless of Lives Turned Around
You’d think the overwhelming amount of money spent on the fallout of adverse childhood experiences would have inspired the medical community, the public health community and federal, state and local governments to integrate this knowledge and fund programs that have been proven to prevent ACEs, and develop new approaches. But adoption of concepts from the ACE Study and the brain research has been remarkably slow and uneven.
On the federal level, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) – probably the largest federal agency you never heard of – launched the National Child Traumatic Stress Network in 2001, and the National Center for Trauma-Informed Care (NCTIC) in 2005. Much of the work focused on stress from individual traumatic events, or individual types of child abuse; only recently has there been a focus on dysfunctional families or changing systems that engage those families to become trauma-informed, i.e., not further traumatizing already traumatized people, as so many of our systems do.
Until recently, the medical community practically ignored the ACE Study, the American Academy of Pediatrics issued a policy statement recommended that its members screen for toxic stress in their patients. With some local exceptions, the public health community has not embraced it. In fact, the CDC — the one agency you might think would use its own research to reorganize how it approaches prevention of alcohol, obesity, sexually transmitted diseases and smoking — has whittled down funding for the ACE Study to practically nothing, and nobody’s working on it full time.
However, on a local and state level, there’s been considerably more action. Washington was the first state to embrace the ACE Study and the research on children’s developing brains, when its Family Policy Council distributed the information through a statewide network of 42 communities. Over three years, 18 states did their own ACE surveys, with results similar to the CDC study.
Some cities — including Philadelphia and San Diego — have set up ACE task forces or guide teams. One — Tarpon Springs, FL — declared itself a trauma-informed community. Trauma-informed practices are popping up around the U.S., Canada, and countries in Europe, Asia, and Central and South America in schools, prisons, mental clinics and hospitals, a few pediatric practices, crisis nurseries, local public health departments, homeless shelters, at least one hospital emergency room, substance-abuse clinics, child welfare services, youth services, domestic violence shelters, rehab centers for seniors, residential treatment centers for girls and boys, and courtrooms.
In these dozens of organizations, agencies and communities, the results of the new approach are nothing less than astounding: the most hopeless of lives turned around, parents speaking “ACEs” and determined not to pass on their high ACEs to their children, and a significant reduction in costs of health care, social services and criminal justice.
Written by Jane Ellen Stevens Huffington Post
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