NEW:  Burn Out Prevention for Women Entrepreneurs

NEW: Burn Out Prevention for Women Entrepreneurs

NEW Program:

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Women Entrepreneurs

Did you know that 70-80% of all visits to the doctor are for
stress-related and stress-induced illnesses?

Burnout is a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.  As the stress continues, you begin to lose the interest, motivation and passion that led you to become an entrepreneur in the first place.

Burnout reduces your productivity and saps your energy, leaving you feeling increasingly helpless, hopeless, cynical, and resentful. Eventually, you may feel like you have nothing more to give.

Are you ready to eliminate some stress?

What you’ll experience:
  • Small, intimate group of 8 Women Entrepreneurs
  • 6 Weekly 90 minute sessions plus personal work
  • Done via the phone from the comfort and privacy of your own home or office from anywhere in the world
  • Experience “Borrowing Benefits” (simply tapping along with someone else on their issues, can help you reduce the emotional intensity of your own issues).

What you’ll take away:

  • Learn how to do basic EFT Tapping for yourselves
  • Create a natural tapping mastermind group with 7 other women entrepreneurs
  • Experience less stress, more  energy and clarity
As a Woman Entrepreneur stress may be trying to tell you something. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tapping has proven to be an amazingly effective tool in calming our stress response and helping our bodies relax and heal…Join Us:

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REGISTER HEREMust register by Friday April 10th at midnight Pacific time.  Simply send an email with BURN OUT PREVENTION in the subject line, and your name, phone number and email to tappingintoyourstrongestlife@gmail.com.   Remember, there is only room for 8 women so please respond NOW to get your spot!I’m excited to help you Tap Out the Stress and bring the passion and purpose back into your life and business!
Hugs!
Gwen
PS: Please share with your women entrepreneur friends  and colleagues who could benefit from this program….
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Lasting Results from EFT Tapping
3 months later…

*|FNAME|*   Last weeks blog post was titled “Overwhelm!  Financial, Physical and Emotional… “   Have you ever felt overwhelmed?  REALLY overwhelmed!  So the overwhelm felt like a tidal-wave?  531457_406806275999184_117560774923737_1656173_771364775_n_large

Overwhelm!  Financial, physical and emotional” that was what my client, JoAnn (not her real name) wrote on the questionnaire I sent her to prepare for our first session.  She was familiar with EFT and had been doing it for several years.   However, she was still stuck.   She said, “I feel like the scared, confused and isolated 5 year old that I was when my mother died and there was no support.”

Did you miss it?

If you missed last weeks post, click HERE to read it. 

I worked with JoAnn about 3 months ago.  After reading the blog post she wrote me a text message and I wanted to share it with you now.  Responses like JoAnn’s tells us that EFT tapping not only works but the results are lasting.

3 months later
“It is wonderful to feel freedom from that previously often-recurring memory. I am so curious about how your readers and your next clients’ will respond to you about their own abandoned-child experiences! 

I could feel the pain I was experiencing from back then –
just as someone would who is seeing a sad movie.

However, the memory hasn’t had any charge at all since then – it hasn’t recurred at all until I read the article . And,

in the 30 minutes or so since I read your article, I wasn’t “stuck”
on the feeling – at ALL.  That was a mammoth amount
of emotional and psychic energy that was freed up,

Gwen. Thank you so very, very much!

I am sooo passionate about this work!  I hear these types of comments all the time and it makes my heart sing every time!  People just don’t realize how simple and powerful EFT Tapping really is and how permanent it can be.

If you’ve experienced a trauma as a child and the emotional residue is still holding you back.  If you’ve tried talk therapy and it was either too painful to dredge up all those old memories (we don’t have to do that with EFT.  Ask about the Tearless Trauma Technique or the Movie technique) or you just didn’t feel like you got the results you were looking for, I invite you to:

  • be a fly on the wall and listen to some of the recorded teleseminars under the FREEBIE tab or
  • email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com for your COMPLIMENTARY 30 minute phone session.  

It seems crazy that something this simple to learn can be this quick and effective!!  But it is! 

Hugs!
Gwen

P. S.  Use the PAUSE button:  A client from this week, Vanessa (not her real name) who is also working on her feelings of overwhelm, told me that she was afraid to read last weeks blog post because of the title.  If you feel that way too, I have some good news.  Here is a quick tip to allow you to face something challenging by calming yourself down in bite sized pieces. 

If you read the headline and it triggers you push the imaginary PAUSE button.  What emotion did that trigger in you?  Start tapping

Set Up Statement on the karate chop point:  Even though that _____  made me feel _____.  I deeply and completely accept how I feel.

Reminder phrase while tapping around the remaining points:   This feeling.  This feeling.  This feeling.

Once you feel a bit calmer, then you can push the PLAY button and continue reading.   Read until it starts to trigger you again.  Push the PAUSE button and tap.  Once the intensity is calmer on that triggered feeling then you can push the PLAY button again. Then keep reading and pushing the PAUSE button when needed.  You’ll be surprised at how much easier anything is when you are processing and clearing out the “sting” as you go. 

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Overwhelm!  Financial, physical and emotional…

Overwhelm! Financial, physical and emotional…

Dear Friend:  Welcome to Your Strongest Life Emotional Freedom coaching.  Have you ever felt overwhelmed?  REALLY overwhelmed!  So the overwhelm felt like a tidal-wave?  If so, I think you’ll really enjoy this post…531457_406806275999184_117560774923737_1656173_771364775_n_large

Overwhelm!  Financial, physical and emotional” that was what my client, JoAnn (not her real name) wrote on the questionnaire I sent her to prepare for our first session.  She was familiar with EFT and had been doing it for several years.   However, she was still stuck.   She said, “I feel like the scared, confused and isolated 5 year old that I was when my mother died and there was no support.”

She told me she could feel it in her throat and upper chest.  It was hard to speak.  The fear that she might be stuck in this kind of situation and not be able to get out of it was a 9 in intensity (0= no emotional intensity and 10 = very high intensity).  I could feel it in her energy across the phone.

The following is the highlights of our session:

We started tapping:

  • Even though I feel all this fear in my body that I might be stuck in this kind of situation.  I deeply and profoundly love and value myself and completely accept how I feel.
  • Even though I feel overwhelmed that I might be stuck in this situation…
  • Even though I feel scared, confused and isolated… (tears)

It was hard for her to say, “I accept how I feel” so we shifted to:

  • It’s really hard to say I accept how I feel because it feels like a tidal-wave
  • I feel scared, confused and isolated like I did when I was 5 when my mother died and there was no support.  [Her voice got really soft and I could feel her energy and how hard it was for her to say it, like it was hard for her to breath.]

We kept tapping:

  • I was only 5 years old…
  • I was just a little girl…
  • I was so scared, confused and isolated…
  • I’m not 5 years old anymore, I have better tools now, I have better support now
  • It’s been terrifying… and it’s not serving me at all anymore…
  • I chose to release it and let it go now…  (Big sigh)

I asked her how she was doing with the overwhelm in her throat and upper chest now and she responded, “Well, I do feel relieved.”  It WAS a 9 and she said, “I was gonna say a 5 but I think it’s really a 7 now.”

I asked her to go back to the tidal-wave feeling…After a bit of discussion about how from a child’s perspective the world is a HUGE place.  So if we have emotional wounds from an early age and we get re-triggered with something scarey such as overwhelm we often FEEL it from the perspective of that small child.  That little 5 year old felt like she didn’t have anyone to turn to and didn’t have any support and the overwhelm actually feels, to that 5 year old inner child, like a tidal-wave!   She totally agreed.

What if we were to go back to the tidal wave feeling when her inner little girl felt really afraid with the help of tapping?  Before she didn’t have anyone to listen to her or support her.  What if we were to listen to her now so she could feel heard, safe and supported?  She liked that idea.

Inner Child Advocate tapping:

I chose to use my Inner Child Advocate tapping exercise with her.   It’s a bit different than traditional tapping because we use “finger tapping” (we tap with our dominant index finger on the right side of each fingernail of the non-dominant hand while we do the exercise).  The exercise begins by going back to a memory of a time when the client felt strong, confident, and supported.  She was able to recall clearly a moment in her adult life when she felt that way and called it, “conversations with Maggie.”

That’s the JoAnn that’s going to go back and talk with and take care of that scared little 5 year old.

With a sigh of relief she said, “Oh Gwen, that’s brilliant! That’s great!”  So we continued tapping…

I asked her to go to the place in her minds eye when her mom died.  What do you think was little JoAnn’s biggest fear from her 5 year old perspective?  The moment when she most felt scared, confused and isolated?

Conversation with her little inner child:

She immediately thought of “kneeling by her mother’s casket.”  She thought it was the “most beautiful house she had ever seen, so much fancier than the house we lived in.  My mother was laying in this fancy bed and she was never going to get out of it again.  It was scary that she was never gonna get up and hug me again.”

We went back to her strong, confident “conversations with Maggie” self.  I asked her to freeze everyone else in the funeral home and have her strong adult self walk in to talk with her scared little self. I asked her to do whatever her scared little JoAnn needed her to do in her minds eye… go to her, pick her up and hug her, sit next to her, take her someplace safe.. whatever little JoAnn wanted.

“She needs me to put my hands on her shoulders,” she said.  Then I asked her to talk to her from her  adult perspective.  I played the part of the tour guide so the following comments are a combination of JoAnn’s and some from me mostly reminding her to stay in her strong adult self.   We continued to do the finger tapping…  this is just the highlights of what she said:

  • You’ve been feeling all alone, scared and confused…
  • I didn’t know you needed me, but now I do…
  • I love you like crazy…
  • You are gonna be ok and I’m gonna keep you safe…
  • I’m gonna take care of you…
  •  I know just how afraid you are because I’m your adult self…the adult you, all grown up.
  • And now I can be here for you, you don’t have to feel so overwhelmed anymore…
  • You can feel calm and relaxed now, because I’m never gonna leave you.
  • I can come back and talk to you anytime, this is just the beginning of the conversation…  From now on, I’m always gonna be here for you…

She took a breath and said, “I like this!” and kept tapping and talking to her little girl self….

When she was finished we had the little JoAnn go off and play someplace safely.

Conversation with her Father:

We went back to her strong confident “conversations with Maggie” self memory to recharge.

Then I had her start finger tapping again and go back to the funeral home, only this time to talk with her father.   She went in and stood next to him… and the following is a snippet of what came flowing out on behalf of little JoAnn:

  • Do you understand what you are doing to her?
  • You are looking at little JoAnn as an escape…
  • You think that as long as she’s busy with her pretending games that everything is ok…
  • What is not ok is for you to assume that you know anything at all about that little girl…
  • You are using her as an escape from your own feelings about losing her mom…
  • Little JoAnn is not her mom, she is a completely different person and she needs a father who can comfort her…
  • She is not your wife!
  • Don’t tell her she is her mother all over again…
  • You need to see little JoAnn for who she is, her strengths, not because you want her to be a reincarnation of your wife.
  • You need to take care of little JoAnn like a dad not a needy person…
  • It’s ok for you to be needy but you need to go to adults to get your needs met…
  • You need to approach little JoAnn and be with her as a FATHER…
  • Do not go to little JoAnn looking for comfort, your job is to be the grownup!
  • When you aren’t being the dad then it makes her feel like she has to be the mother to you…
  • Little JoAnn can not be your mother!  She cannot be your wife!
  • It makes her feel used, invisible and that she has no identity — like a ghost!
  • Confused, isolated and scared because she has to do it all on her own.
  • That’s not right!  So you need to find some resources that will help you.
  • I’m letting you know this because you are a loving man, but right now you’re confused.
  • So take this to heart, if you love your little girl, your children, let them be who they are…
  • Do not escape into the bottle…
  • Do not abandon them by over drinking…
  • They will be orphans…  You do not want your kids to be orphans, do you?

When she was ready she said, “I’m feeling complete.  That was a really good exercise!

I asked her to go back to the beginning of the session to see how overwhelmed she was feeling now?   She said, “Hmmmm…. Ohhh, the number 2 came up but “I don’t feel overwhelmed at all now actually.  (little laugh)  I don’t feel overwhelmed at all.  This is a wonderful feeling!”

Her biggest Ah-Ha:

When I asked her what her biggest Ah-Ha was from doing this tapping exercise she said, “That strong and confident ‘conversation with Maggie’ self is accessible anytime!  Now I have the strength to get me through the challenges that I face, I can know my next step and take right action.  I can analyze with compassion and restore order (that phrase just came to me, she said as she giggled with delight.)

“That little girl inside of me doesn’t ever have to be alone, scared and overwhelmed again.  Wow! Thanks so much Gwen!!”

 

If you can relate to this story in anyway and you have a scared,  confused, isolated and overwhelmed inner child struggling.  If her fear is keeping you stuck from moving forward in your business and your life, and you’d like to help her heal so you can live Your Strongest Life, please send me an email at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com to schedule your one hour INTRO phone session.  Only $75 ($125 Value).

There’s nothing to lose.  If you don’t get some relief on the first call you can get your money back!

I invite you to write your thoughts and make comments below.  You never know how much your thoughts can help someone else who thinks they are the only ones feeling this type of hurt.  Thank you!

Warmly,

Gwen

 

 

 

The Same ol Pattern of Looking for the Positive to Avoid Being Disappointed…

The Same ol Pattern of Looking for the Positive to Avoid Being Disappointed…

Welcome to Your Strongest Life emotional freedom coaching.  Do you ever get disappointed?  If so, can you recognize the pattern?  Read below to see how Angela was able to take the “sting” out of her disappointment, sadness and anger and shift how she has always thought about them with her own fingertips.

Angela (not her real name) and I originally started working together because of the high stress and physical pain she had been feeling. She recently changed jobs and was knee deep in the middle of the learning curve of the new job, also a bit stressful.  As we started the session,  I asked how the new job was going, she said, “The job is good.  I’m finally done with the evaluation from my old job and it went “as expected not as hoped.  It was rough but I’m so glad to be done with it!”

heart-energyI caught a familiar pattern when she said, “as expected not as hoped.”

I said, ” from what you’ve told me that sounds like a really good description of your life.”   She laughed.

I asked her if that was accurate and she said “Yes.

“I didn’t want to put a lot into being hopeful and be disappointed by it,” she said and started to laugh… “It IS still there!”, she became conscious of what she was saying.  “You try to put yourself in the mindset of different things but the undertow is still there.”

She continued as if she were processing her thoughts as she talked, ” I’ve spent 35 years and that’s the way I’ve adjusted to things.   It’s still there…   I’ve always tried to look for the possitive to avoid being disappointed.”  She told me she has felt  Sadness her whole life, (we’ve gone back to childhood emotions in previous sessions) at first the sadness feeling was a 7 or an 8.

We started tapping…

  • Even though it feels really sad that I’ve had to look for the positive  to avoid the disappointment for most of my life
  • All this sadness… this little girl sadness…
  • Maybe I can release and let go of this undertow of sadness that’s still there

When we checked in with the sadness in her body she said, “It’s not even really there now.  It went from a 7 or an 8, down to a 4 or 5  and now it’s about a 1 or a 2.”

I asked her for her thoughts:  I felt it coming up and then it just, closing my eyes, thinking about it while we tapped and I watched it go away….

[NOTE:  That’s how emotions are suppose to react.  Emotions = energy in motion.  So if we allow ourselves to FEEL the emotion it goes though our bodies and leaves rather quickly.  Like the story of the 3 year old shopping with his parents.  Someone in the store gave him a helium balloon and he was OVER THE MOON excited about the balloon.  They tied it to his wrist and he kept trying to take it off.  In the car on the way home he managed to get it off his wrist so when they got home, opened the car door, it flew out and popped on a bush.  He threw himself against his daddy’s chest and sobbed uncontrollably…. for abo9ut a minute.  Then he noticed that his sister was bringing in groceries and off he went  to help, all better.  The emotion had processed and he was on to another thing.  That’s how quickly it takes to process most emotions if we were to process them immediately.  However, as a society we’ve been socialized to stuff them.]

When I asked her what had popped up while we were doing that tapping round she told me of the DREAD she used to feel every time she had to ask permission for something..    She remembered being 12 yrs old, asking to go to a friends house to stay the night. She said, “The conversation would go like this, Why do you think you need to do this? What are you going to do there?  50 questions… If we let you do this now, what will you have to look forward to next year?”

It took awhile for me to realize that this was gonna be the consistent pattern, she said.  I just got ANGRY and stopped asking to do anything.  She felt the anger in her chest, the dread /anger was about a 5 or a 6.

We tapped on the dread/ anger:

  • Even tho I always felt dread when I had to go through the jury to be able to go to someones house… 50 questions…
  • Even though I was only about 12 I was so angry that I felt helpless and just stopped asking to do anything…
  • I felt trapped… Helpless, angry and trapped….
  • From the perspective of a 12 year old girl…
  • Disappointed…

She started processing her thoughts out loud as we tapped:

No wonder I look for the positive to avoid being disappointed because  I was always disappointed especially that time I wanted to stay the night w my friend.  My parents needed to ask all those questions because… I just think they didn’t want me to do it so instead of saying no they put me through this…   Maybe my parents didn’t know how to say no so they put me through this whole thing so I would give up before they had to say no because they didn’t know how to say no….  it made me angry but I thought it was about me…  I ‘ve had to work so hard to adjust and look for the positive to avoid being disappointed simply because they didn’t know how to say no…

That makes me feel (laughter) slightly crazy.   This is crazy because I feel like they said no constantly but if I look at how they were with my sisters they never told them no and THAT ALWAYS made me feel angry!

You’re the oldest?, I asked.  Yes!, she responded.

We continued to tap…

  • I was the oldest and  I was the “test” child…
  • They didn’t know how to say no TO ME so they put me through all of the 50 questions, hoping that I would just give up…
  • But they never said no to my sisters and that really made me angry
    .
  • It wasn’t fair and I’m still suffering the consequences.
  • I’m not willing to suffer the consequences anymore.  That happened back when I was a kid I’m not a kid anymore.
  • I’m just gonna feel my anger about how I felt towards them and the anger about how I felt towards my sisters…and just let it go…
  • I think I’m just gonna be angry at them… (laughter…)

“YES Whenever they think they are not in control of the situation they tend to do the same thing today…”

We continued to tap…

  • Now I realize when they don’t feel in control that’s their pattern
  • I thought it was about me.
  • Turns out it might just be about them needing to be in control
  • So I chose to feel this anger and release it and let it go.
  • It’s not serving me at all anymore
  • It’s not even about me.
  • And surprisingly it never was.
  • What a relief!

We checked in with the pressure in her chest about feeling angry, helpless and trapped.  It was a 5 or a 6 and now…  “NOTHING!  It’s gone!”

When I asked her what thoughts popped up for her while she was tapping she said, “It was definitely about them and control and the older I got the less they felt like they had control of everything and the stricter they got and the more hoops I had to jump through for everything.  I KNOW it’s about them now but as a child the way they went about it always put it back on me.  At some point during those 50 questions there was going to be a response they don’t like.  They had a really gifted way of it always being left on me.   It was almost as if they’d have me talk myself through it and then I would realize it wasn’t a good idea.”   Laughter…

No wonder you learned to just shut down and be angry because  it was a survival technique as a kid. You felt helpless and feeling helpless is a trauma.

Her Ah-Ha from the call was:  The way that I consciously look for the positive to change my perspective and avoid disappointment is what I was trained to do as a little girl.  No wonder I just did that with my ex-boss.  I’m just doing it a little bit differently now [because you’re older and more mature, I chimed in]… laughter …but I’m still trying to avoid disappointment.

Now that we’ve tapped out the emotional “sting” and you are consciously aware of what’s happening you get to have a choice.  Up until now the painful emotion was driving you.

I invite you to share your thoughts below…

Are YOU repeating the same old subconscious patterns that are keeping you stuck, sad and angry? Please email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com for more information on how to do your own phone session from the comfort and privacy of your own home or office and begin to clear and heal your own emotional wounds from a core level and stop repeating the process.

Emotional freedom is priceless!

 

Hugs!

Gwen

 

Stress, Weight and Not Loving and Accepting Myself

Stress, Weight and Not Loving and Accepting Myself

Friends:  Welcome to mid March.  Depending on where you live, you may be experiencing the blossoming of spring like we are here in WA.  The days are getting longer and the sun is shining more.  For that, I feel a great amount of gratitude.  I also feel gratitude for my clients.  Most of which are very brave women dealing with stuff that isn’t so fun to deal with and most often they come away feeling much less stressed, calmer and much better about themselves.Walls

Laurie’s initial response to my question (not her real name), What are the 3 biggest challenges or obstacles that you would like some help on? was “Stress, Weight and Not Loving and Accepting Myself.”  Her comments touched my heart.  I knew I needed to share this with you because if I had a dollar for every women I’ve worked with who said that, or felt that way but couldn’t put it into words, I would be a very rich woman!

She also talked about how she would like to take her “walls” down and be able to let people in and close to her.  “I tend to keep people, including my husband, at arms distance.”

We talked about how extra weight IS a wall that we build, I happen to know this very intimately, to keep ourselves protected and safe from something.  And how the weight is just a symptom of the deeper issues.

When I asked her to repeat out loud, “I tend to have walls and keep people, including my husband, at arms distance” and asked her where she felt that in her body, she began to cry.  She gave the “it makes me wanna cry” a 5 or 6 in intensity.

We started to tap…

  • Even though I have these walls and I build them to protect myself and keep myself safe.
  • These walls…
  • I have these walls…
  • I have to have these walls in order to protect myself…

We checked in and had her repeat the sentence, “I tend to have walls and keep people, including my husband, at arms distance” and I asked her what she was feeling.  She said, “Right now I feel calm.  I don’t really have much intensity at all.  Not any emotion.  It’s only a zero or a 1.”

I asked her to tell me a bit about the walls and why she thought she needed them.

She said that “it might have something to do with being afraid that someone might leaveLike when my parents got divorced and I was a senior in High School.”  I didn’t even know that it really affected me until my last relationship before I got married. That one still haunts me today.”  (She started getting emotional)

She continued to tell me about it, “I broke up with somebody I really loved because I felt like I had to.”

Sick feeling in my stomach.  Makes me feel sick.  Brokenhearted.  About a 7 in intensity.

  • Even though it still haunts me, that first week after we broke up and I moved out
  • It’s been 17 years
  • I still feel that sick feeling in my stomach
  • I felt like I have to break up with him because he was irresponsible
  • I couldn’t be with someone who was irresponsible
  • Even though I loved him
  • It broke my heart but I had to do it
  • I bailed him out of everything
  • I just knew I couldn’t be with someone who was completely irresponsible

As we tapped we included the following phrase:

I am responsible.  Being with someone who is irresponsible reminds me of when I was young (what memory pops up?).  She responded, “I was responsible for taking care of my younger brothers and sisters.  I was the responsible one in my house.”

We checked in again and the intensity from the Sick feeling in her stomach.  The brokenhearted feeling that was a 7 in intensity. and she said, “Now I’m really calm.  I’d say a 1 or a zero.”

We talked a bit more about why she felt so strongly that she had to be with someone who was responsible.  She said, “I just always felt like I would be bailing him out for everything.  I wanted someone who would take care of me too.  I always felt like I would take care of him but he wouldn’t take care of me. That’s why it felt so appealing to date my husband because he’s very loyal and solid.”

So I asked her to tell me why her parents got divorced.

She started laughing…. “Oh my gosh!”

She continued, “My mom was irresponsible with money, that was the biggest deal they fought about money.  My mom didn’t really work and my dad made good money but he had 5 kids to support.”

I asked, “Oh, so your mom was irresponsible?”  She giggled and said, “Obviously I have a connection there with my mother deep down that I want to have a better life and a better relationship than what my parents had.”

I explained, that if your parents got divorced because your mom was irresponsible your subconscious mind was saying, hell no!  As much as your conscious mind loved him your subconscious mind was saying WARNING!  BAD NEWS!  Get away from him!  If he’s irresponsible we will get divorced and it will be really painful just like my parents.  Your body was doing exactly what it believed it needed to do to keep you safe.

I asked her what was coming up for her?

She responded, “I wish I could feel that way about my husband.  Sometimes I think I don’t love him enough like he deserves to be loved.  I don’t think I love him like he loves me.”

I asked her if she could feel that  in her body?  Tears…  “It’s painful.  I feel like he’s been cheated on for a long time”.  It’s sadness.   A 7 or an 8.

  • I wish I could feel that way about my husband…
  • All that sadness in my body….
  • It might happen again…
  • Maybe it’s not safe to life him that much…
  • No wonder I’ve put up walls… they are here to protect both of us…
  • Something deep inside is afraid…
  • All this sadness I’ve been carrying for 17 years…

We checked in on the feeling about the sadness she was feeling about the walls…  “I feel pretty calm.  I don’t really have any intensity right now at all.”

We went back to try to “poke” and “re-trigger” all the main things we tapped on and her response for all of them were, “calm.”  “It’s no longer a ball of energy or feelings that makes me want to start crying.  That feeling that I’ve been trying to suppress is gone.”

Her biggest Ah-Ha:  I didn’t realize the irresponsible thing , how it ran so deep between the three topics we talked about (and tapped on) today.  I’ve seen counselors for years who have probably connected those dots and told me that I was supposed to “just let it go.”  (She plans on doing some more sessions and working on her anger towards her mom’s “irresponsibility,” “laziness” and trying to “take the easy way out.”)

Follow Up:  In a follow up text a few weeks later she wrote, “Hey Gwen.  It’s weird & really hard to describe the difference since we tapped.  I’ve been calmer and happier, and feeling like being nicer to my husband (Ha Ha), so it must be working.”

Can you relate to Laurie’s story?  Are YOU ready to stop the struggle and be “calmer and happier” in your business or personal life?  I invite you to email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com for your complimentary 30 minute phone chat.  Let’s see if EFT will work for you too.

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What’s REALLY Behind Your Anxiety of Debt? …and How to Calm It.

What’s REALLY Behind Your Anxiety of Debt? …and How to Calm It.

Financial Freedom next exitDear Friend:    Welcome.  I hope this blog post is finding you healthy and happy.  If not, tapping may be a good tool to help  you get there.

I worked with a client last week, let’s call her Jenny (not her real name).  She started the call talking about feeling anxious and overwhelmed about the things she has on her plate because of the anxiety she feels about her debt.  I thought that debt is something that most of us can relate to so I’d like to share.

Jenny is a professional woman in her late 50’s taking on an extra part time job to make ends meet.  During the training  for her new part time job she’ll be working 12 hour days and she’s afraid of how exhausted she’ll be.  As she talked more about it she mentioned that she can’t seem to have money AND time.  She said, “I’m scared for my health” and she got emotional.   She said she could feel it in her chest.  It was an 8 in intensity (0 = no emotional charge and a 10 =an extremely high emotional charge).

We started tapping at whatever feeling made her emotional… (the following is the highlights of what we tapped on)

  • Even though I have so much debt and it makes me feel powerless…
  • Even though I’ve created this situation myself…
  • I feel completely regretful because of the bad choices I’ve made…

We kept tapping and unpacking her emotions….

  • I’ve always made bad choices:
  • Even though it was a bad choice to leave my relationship, there was a lot of financial security there…
  • I guess I have to be miserable in order to have financial security
  • That’s the way it’s gone ever since I went back to school
  • I’ve been so unhappy ever since I acquired all of this debt
  • The biggest reason is because I chose to make a career change
  • Another bad choice

As we continued to tap I asked her what that feeling in her body about making bad choices reminded her of… and she immediately responded:

  • Getting pregnant at 15  was a bad choice.
  • I have to punish myself for the rest of my life
  • I have to keep punishing myself until I die.

We tapped a bit on her feelings about the unwanted pregnancy…..

  • I’m open to the possibility that maybe 15 year olds make bad choices, that’s why they have parents to guide them to make better choices.
  • But I didn’t have parents that could do that for me
  • So I’m beating myself up because no one was there to teach me.
  • I choose to release it and let it go now it’s not serving me at all anymore
  • I’ve punished my 15 year old self enough
  • I chose to give her a break
  • I chose to forgive her…
  • She was only 15.   She did the best she could under the circumstances

We stopped tapping to check in.  When she repeated out loud that she made bad choices the intensity level had gone up from an 8 to a 9, (I recognized that we tried to tap into the positive too soon) so we kept tapping.

  • Even though it got higher, I have all these regrets that I’ve been going over and over in my head for so long now
  • I can’t love and value myself because I’m so angry at myself I deeply and profoundly accept how I feel
  • I’m so angry at myself because I’ve made so many serious errors in judgement
  • I never deserve to be forgiven because what I’ve done is soo bad, it’s in the same category as abandonment.

We followed the thread and kept tapping…

  • I abandoned my child (gave it up for adoption) just like my parents abandoned me.
  • and for that there’s no forgiveness
  • Part of me can never forgive my parents for not guiding me appropriately
  • Part of me is so angry at my parents but I’m not supposed to be because they are my parents.  So I have to be angry at myself.

When we stopped to check in on the feeling in her chest, it was a 9 before, I asked what is it now?

  • The abandonment feeling was a 10… so we kept tapping…
  • Even though I feel abandoned.  My dad left me too young.  He died when I was only 35…
  • This abandonment feeling…
  • He abandoned me and that reminded me of a time when I was young..

A fuzzy memory came to her.  She started telling me about a time, “When we were supposed to go to a father daughter dinner at my school.  I think he didn’t show up.”

We kept tapping…

  • Even though I felt abandoned by my dad
  • I love and value myself and accept how I feel
  • He didn’t show up for the dinner
  • I was only 7
  • I deeply and profoundly accept how I feel
  • I was just a little girl
  • He didn’t show up
  • I thought it must mean that I didn’t matter
  • My dad didn’t show up for me and I thought it meant I didn’t matter.  I was only 7.
  • I’ve been feeling that feeling in my chest ever since that day
  • I’ve been repeating that pattern…
  • No wonder I’ve made all those bad choices.
  • I made those bad choices from a wounded 7 year olds perspective.  That feeling that I don’t matter isn’t serving me at all anymore.
  • My dad didn’t show up probably not because I didn’t matter but because he was an alcoholic and he had a disease that was more important than anything to him, including me.
  • I chose to forgive myself for believing that I didn’t matter because I did the best I could with the tools I had when I was just a 7 year old little girl.
  • I’m all grown up now so I chose to release that pain and let it go, what a relief.

She took a deep breath and slowly and thoughtfully said, “The intensity is now only about a 5.  It could even be a 4.”  [Sometimes we are able to find the specific thing to tap on relatively quickly and also bring the intensity down quickly.  Other times we have to keep tapping while doing some detective work, going through the layers, until we hit the specific emotion that is holding us hostage.  Once that happens we can feel relief pretty quickly, many times instantly.]

She continued speaking as the awareness was coming to her, “It feels less constricting in my chest.  Less of a heartache type thing.  When the feelings were escalating, oh my god, it was such a heartache over all of this!  It’s feeling like forgiveness of my dad now — just knowing he was an alcoholic.  Now it’s really more about the disease than it is about me How I see and feel it now is that my dad didn’t really have very much control over HIS choices.  I think the disease had such a hold on him that he just didn’t have a lot of control over those choices.

The intensity came down quite a bit so she was able to see things from a completely different perspective.  More from her adult self rather than her wounded little 7 year old self who, because of her fathers alcoholic behavior,  thought she didn’t matter.

She gave the remaining 4 or 5 in intensity the label of sadness.  We tapped some more on her sadness…

  • Even though I learned to be angry and make bad choices because that’s what I saw my parents do so of course that’s what I too!
  • I wanted desperately to matter just like all little children do.
  • All this sadness….
  • I deeply and profoundly love and value myself anyway and completely accept how I feel.
  • All this sadness in my body…
  • These are my parents beliefs and behaviors, they aren’t serving me at all anymore…

The session was about over  and we had been able to make quite a bit of progress in only one hour.

Her biggest Ah-Ha:  “About the role my father played in all of this.  We’ve focused a lot on my mom in past sessions and how my mom made me feel but I haven’t spent that much time thinking about what I learned from my dad through all of this… a lot of it is about choices I’ve made that I’ve felt really pulled to do because I was hoping to have an inner need fulfilled.  Things were done to me — from that 7 year old little girls perspective– and I thought I had the choice to do something different, and I just chose to make bad choices,  but maybe I didn’t.”

This is a good example of how EFT works when we have a lot of emotions stacked on top of one another (which most of us do) and they “daisy chain” together.  We tap one aspect or layer at a time and then they all start collapsing.  We went from debt, to bad choices, to regret, to being angry at herself, feelings of abandonment, and feeling like she didn’t matter and finally sadness.  There is probably more to tap on, however, we simply start where we are and systematicallyunpackthestingattached to every emotion allowing for some permanent relief.

If you are carrying extra emotional baggage about debt or anything else, and it’s keeping you stuck from living Your Strongest Life there may be a way to calm your fears and quiet that critical self talk that is keeping you beating yourself up so badly.  I invite you to email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com NOW for your complimentary 30 minute chat to see if we are a good fit to work together and so you can get some emotional relief!

Keep tapping!

Hugs!

Gwen

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Are You Still Suffering yet the Accident was Years Ago?

Are You Still Suffering yet the Accident was Years Ago?

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Are You Still Suffering yet
the Accident was Years Ago?

My new client contacted me to say that she’d had a car accident, basically a fender bender and the doctors diagnosed her with traumatic brain injury.  She has been dizzy and disoriented for 16 months straight.  She told me that she had taken medications, done physical therapy and cognitive training with no results and that this was greatly impacting her life and she “had to get out of this world.”

During her first session we:

Cleared the “pressure and tingling frustration with myself” and anger in her chest and stomach about the accident.   Took it from an 11 (on a scale from 0-10) down to a zero.  She said that she felt relaxed and didn’t feel it in her stomach anymore.

She had a burning pain in her right scapula and after the tapping she reported “It’s not there now!  It feels like I’ve been dumping a little junk out of me.”

Then when we tapped on the accident itself and she felt anger again.  It was a 4.5 in intensity in her upper stomach.  She said that she’d never hit anyone before and she felt helpless and had a nauseous feeling in her stomach.  She wanted to “fix it and make it better.”   She felt lost, disabled and sad.  The intensity went down to a 2.   (She reported before we started tapping that she had been nauseous for 90 days after the accident).

At the end of the session I asked her what her biggest Ah-Ha was and she answered:   “I’m so surprised that this showed some signs of success in only one hour.  It’s been a tough couple days and this morning.  Lots of anxiety –   NONE now!!   I’m just tired.

A week later, session #2  at the beginning of the session she reported that she was having a “very mildly dizzy day.  That’s two in a row with very, very diminished disorientation.  I haven’t hesitated to do anything.  This is a vast improvement over the last seven months. I’ve felt like I’ve been on a wild carnival ride that doesn’t ever go away.  Been at a 10 most of the last 7 months.  I may cancel my PT with the dizzy therapist because I want to see how this works out. 🙂   I’m encouraged!”

We “unpacked” and lessened the emotional charge on several things including:

  • Her extreme anger that “somebody took my vision away from me.   I had good vision before.  I’m now legally blind.”
  • The pressure and tightness she felt in her head regarding not being able to read a street sign.  She felt like an “idiot” because she missed a turn once and someone was following her.  She was extremely embarrassed.
  • As we continued to tap she became consciously aware for the first time that the dizziness and disorientation was causing everything to be “in slow motion” and that didn’t feel like HER!  “All my life…  I’ve been a busy bee.  I just don’t work in slow motion.”  She felt “LOST” in her heart.  An intensity of  5.  After the tapping that feeling went down to a zero.
  • That lost feeling in her heart reminded her of being 5 years old and having to go stay with her grandma when her parents got a divorce.  She felt sadness and unwanted.

Ah-Ha:  “The realization that I’m giving too much attention to what I can’t do and not focusing on what I can do. “

The next day she wrote me the following email:

“I just had to tell you.   I left the house today, went to Penney’s and shopped the entire first floor.  Usually very, very disorientating for me and I buy way too much.  I did fairly well and didn’t get overly overwhelmed.  Left there and went to Costco which really overwhelms me, but it didn’t and I was in and out very quickly.  Then would normally go home exhausted and overwhelmed BUT I went to the grocery store, did another errand, got gas and went home.  This is HUGE for me.   I can never do five errands in one day.  Hard to believe but so true.  And, normally I have to do these things as early in the morning as I can get ready but today I had to wait for something and didn’t leave until 1:30!  What an eye opener!”

The following week, session #3, she reportedThe past 7 days I’ve hardly been dizzy at all.

She told me how upsetting it had been that after the accident she developed a habit of biting her lip and it’s been “HORRENDOUS!  I HATE IT SO MUCH!  I’m so embarrassed to be around people and my job is being around people.”  She told me that she saw a neuro-psychologist last March or April and he told her that it was “nervous tension and it will go away.”  As she talked about it she could feel the intensity in her neck and shoulders, a 6 in intensity.  As we tapped that went down to a 3 and as she felt calmer about that several other memories popped up including:

  • The memory of an assault a decade ago which caused a heavy weight in the center of her chest.  She had been hit in the ear with the butt of a knife and lost the hearing in that ear.
  • The frustration and anger about losing her hearing after the assault
  • Panic attacks that she experienced for many years prior to all of that.
  • And all the anger she felt about losing so much time in her life for all of these issues.

As we continued to tap and “unpack” all the emotional trauma that has been stored in her body for years and removed the emotional charge that went with it, she felt calmer and calmer.  Her ah-ha after the 3rd session was that she was realizing that the anger and fear she was feeling, that she thought was coming from the car accident, started even before she was hit in the ear and lost her hearing a decade ago…

I absolutely LOVE what I do!  And I absolutely LOVE EFT Tapping!  She’s been suffering for a year and a half and she’s experienced all of this freedom in just 3 short weeks — I’m so excited for her!   I can’t wait to see what we can clear next week!

Have you, or someone you know and love, been suffering needlessly with a physical symptom after an accident that may have emotional components to it and you are/ they are ready to get to the heart of it and clear it once and for all?

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Stress is expensive…  Emotional Freedom is priceless!   

Hugs!

Gwen

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Do You Ever Get Your Buttons Pushed?

Do You Ever Get Your Buttons Pushed?

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“Look at who or what is pushing your buttons. Everything external is internal. This means that if something outside of yourself is bothering you, for example, someone else’s behavior, then you have that within you as well. If you didn’t, there would be no emotional charge to it.”                           ~ Tiny Buddha

Hot buttonHave you ever been going about your day, basically minding your own business, and all of a sudden someone does or says something and all of a sudden, instantly out of what seems to be nowhere you feel a RUSH of intensity, a BLAST of emotion?  WHOOSH, emotional intensity through your whole body!! It might be anger.  Maybe it’s tears.  Maybe it’s tears because you feel angry.  Perhaps you feel hurt, or sad, or misunderstood.  Or maybe you feel stupid, inadequate or unloved.  You can’t seem to control it!  Your heart pounds, your muscles tense….you react.  It’s almost as if someone or something else has taken over your mind and body.   You’ve gotten your buttons pushed!

It can be very distracting and often all consuming.

Have you ever noticed that it tends to be the same few things, the same similar scenarios that trigger you every time?

  • Someone says ___________________ (fill in the blank)
  • Someone does ___________________ (fill in the blank)
  • It instantly makes you feel  ______________ (fill in the blank)

These moments often happen at the most inopportune times; in the middle of an important meeting, a wedding, a funeral, a big presentation, a holiday dinner, or when something you feel passionately about is happening,  The rush of energy and emotions rarely come at a “good time.”

Where do those “buttons” come from and what can you do about it?

Most times they seem to be invisible and pop up out of nowhere like a rake in the face!  However, those buttons can be very predictable.  They are often from past emotional wounds or traumas, small or large, buried deep in your body, your subconscious mind.  Typically you are not even consciously aware of what they are and where they are coming from.  However, when someone accidentally brushes up against one of them (or sometimes in the case of siblings or other relatives people push our buttons on purpose to get the same ol familiar auto-pilot reaction.

Sometimes it’s small and just a little annoying, yet other times it begins to cause upset and disruption in our daily lives, causing issues with our relationships, keeping us awake at night and preventing us from living our strongest lives.

If this is happening to you or someone you know, Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping is an amazing tool for finding and healing those raw wounds and neutralizing them, taking the sting away, often permanently.

EFT is not talk therapy.  We DO NOT need to talk through the issues in detail re-traumatizing the original wounds…  we simply find where we are holding them in our bodies (tension in our heads, a lump in our throat, pressure in our chests, sick feeling in our stomachs, tension and tightness in our neck and shoulders are some of the most common places we hold these “buttons”)  Many of my clients have confirmed that what my EFT instructor told us, “One hour of EFT equals 100 hours of talk therapy” is true.

No worries if you can’t find those buttons yourself, that’s what I’m here for, to be your tour guide and help you to find those buttons and reduce the emotional charge as quickly and gently as possible.

Please email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com for your complimentary 30 minute phone session to see if this is something that could help YOU!

Hugs!

Gwen

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EFT and Pain, Panic and Molestation – Success across the board

EFT and Pain, Panic and Molestation – Success across the board

Friends:  Happy Tuesday!  I’d like to share with you today something that is near and dear to myFREEDOM clouds heart.  The following article was posted in the original Gary Craig, founder of EFT, www.emofree.com website by Aileen Nobles.  I just ran across it and thought it may be beneficial to many women reading this newsletter.  With EFT Tapping I’ve also successfully worked with many women over the past 6 years who have experienced pain, panic and the aftermath of molestation on many different levels and this story weaves it all together beautifully.

My intention in sharing this information is to offer some HOPE to the readers who have experienced similar situations and are feeling alone, and/or have tried years of therapy and still feel stuck.  Or, if you know and love someone who is struggling, please pass this post on.   I’m thrilled to say that IT IS POSSIBLE to heal from such traumatic emotional wounds!

Now everyone may not have experienced all of the above, however, unpacking and neutralizing painful memories from the past with EFT works very similarly regardless of the specific trauma.  

NOTE:  There are some descriptive details in the following article. 

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“When “Angela” first contacted me she was incapacitated with pain in her arm and shoulder, and also suffered from panic attacks along with a feeling of helplessness.  The panic attacks were accompanied by her inability to take a deep breath.

When she first started with me she was aware that something happened when she was young but it was blanked out when she tried to recall the situations.  She knew it was connected to her cousin, as she would get sick to her stomach if she had to see him.  We started tapping.

  • Even though I don’t know what happened I’m quite wonderful anyway…
  • Even though I know it was bad…
  • Even though I’m too scared to remember, perhaps I can remember just enough for me to be OK with it.

The first session was gentle as she seemed so fragile, and it allowed her to feel safe to explore further.  When it was time for Angela’s second session she had remembered a situation from her childhood wherein she remembered waking up in bed with a man on top of her.  She tried to scream but he had his hand over her mouth.  As she recounted this situation she only saw it happening from the back.  She couldn’t recall faces, or hear any sounds.  She described it as if she was in a tunnel. 

She was at a level of intensity of 10 out of 10 as she told me this much. 

We tapped.

  • This man is on top of me, I am so afraid.
  • I can’t breathe.
  • Where’s my mother?
  • I’m so scared and hurting.

EFT decreased the intensity of this situation, and she was so surprised to be able to articulate it. She was very sure there were other situations of abuse, but could not recall them.  When she tried she started to get panicky.  The pain in her arm and shoulder had gone down to about a 4 on a scale of 0 to 10.
During the next session, Angela had remembered another part of her trauma.  This time she was able to hear words and sounds, and have flashes of seeing their faces.  She had recalled an attack in a bedroom with her cousin and his friend.  The cousin was babysitting Angela and her sister.  Angela was eight and her sister was five.  She remembered one of them holding her arms as the other one molested her.  Again hands were over her face smothering her screams.  They also told her that if she told anyone they would really hurt her.As she recounted this episode the pain in her arm and shoulder went up to a 10, and her breathing was very shallow. 

We tapped.

  •  I’m so little and afraid and I don’t know why they are doing this to me.
  • No one’s helping me.
  • I’m so scared.
  • I want to hit him and get him off me.
  • I don’t want to carry these memories with me.
  • I want to let go of this fear.
  • I’m sick to my stomach and I can’t breathe.
  • Get off me and leave me alone, I’m just a little girl.
  • I hate you.
  • I want to let this go.
  • I want to hit you.
  • I can’t breathe.
  • But that happened a long time ago.
  • It was bad enough that it happened then, without me carrying it with me all these years.
  • Perhaps the pain in my arm is connected with the pain of being violated and not being able to hit and protect myself.
  • I don’t want Andy (cousin) in my arm.
  • I don’t want painful memories in my arm or anywhere in my psyche.
  • I want to detach from these traumatic memories.
  • It’s true it happened, but it’s time to let it go.
  • It’s over now.
  • I can begin healing myself.

The pain in Angela’s arm was down from a 10 to a 2.

In our next session Angela was furious, she said she had been angry all week particularly at her mother.  She remembered going to her mother crying and shaking, to tell her what had happened.  She was so scared because of her cousin’s threats, but she did it anyway.  Her mother told her to stop making up stories and to go and play.  Her arm was at a 10 again and during the week she had had another panic attack.  The mother was physically abused by Angela’s father and was very afraid and ineffectual.

We tapped.

  • Even though my mother didn’t save me from the bad men, I can still learn to love and accept myself anyway.  (She couldn’t say I love and accept myself.)
  • I feel so betrayed.
  • My mother is meant to protect me, and she didn’t.
  • I understand even though my mother was meant to protect me, she couldn’t even protect herself from her own husband.
  • My mother was damaged.
  • She didn’t know how to be a good mother.
  • I know she loved me the best she could.
  • She lived in fear and was constantly abused.
  • I understand this intellectually but not emotionally.
  • I’d like to be able to forgive her for not being the way I want her to be.
  • I can’t forgive her.
  • Perhaps I can.
  • No I can’t.
  • It would be a release for me if I could.
  • It may be possible, but either way I’m quite wonderful anyway.
  • I am ready to be at peace with this situation.

The pain was down and she was relaxed and breathing well.  Next we did the movie technique on different situations of molestation that had surfaced.  I had her tap as she recounted the feeling of being smothered and not able to breath and wanting to strike out as she relived the experience.  When the intensity peaked we tapped on that particular part.  After about 15 minutes, it was amazing to hear the difference in the way she recounted detailed accounts of abuse.  Her emotional intensity went down on every instance to a level between 0 and 1. 

Her arm and shoulder pain were gone!

In her next session she mentioned that she had not experienced any breathing problems, and could hardly be bothered to think about the molestation.  She said it just wasn’t important any more.  She still had some anger at her mother and of course at her father. 

We tapped on both parents until she could forgive them for not being “perfect.”  She recognized they were very damaged and actually felt sorry for them

She has been pain free and panic free for over 4 months now. 

Once again EFT changes a life.

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If you, or someone you know and love, is still suffering with a past trauma I encourage you to email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com for a complimentary 30 minute chat about how we (EFT & I) may be able to help you!  Emotional Freedom is priceless!

Hugs!

Gwen

PS:  Your questions and comments below are welcome.  Your words may help someone else who is too timid to speak up yet.

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                        FREE Weekly Thursday Tapping Teleseminar

Goes Once a Month on the THIRD THURSDAY in March

10:30am Pacific/ 1:30pm Eastern

The weekly FREE Tapping Teleseminar that I’ve been offering every Thursday, designed for people who need to know a bit more about what this “tapping thing” is before trying it out for themselves, will be changing to once a month starting in March.    Tapping in a group allows you to receive Borrowing Benefits (Simply tapping along with someone else on their issues, can help you reduce the emotional intensity of your own issues).    Plus, the good news is that  you are able to see that you are definitely not alone in your emotional struggles.  We are all more alike than you can imagine.

If you are unable to participate, the recordings will be posted on Your Strongest Life website www.yourstrongestlife.com under the FREEBIES tab for 48 hours.   Hope to “see” you on March 19th!

Remaining Weekly calls: 

Feb 19th — Q & A.  Everything you ever wanted to know about EFT Tapping but were afraid to ask.

Feb 26th — What’s Holding You Back?

Click HERE to register.

FREE online Tapping World Summit — SAVE 20 Percent with Your Strongest Life

FREE online Tapping World Summit — SAVE 20 Percent with Your Strongest Life

The Tapping World Summit

starts TODAY!

Are You Ready to Tap
Away Your Problems?

Tapping World Summit 2015

 Each of us are a product of the life experiences that we’ve had, the different moments in our lives that have formed our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world. Unfortunately many of these events have been negative and have limited our ability to live the life we truly deserve.

When you think about your life, what events, limiting beliefs, or deep-seated emotions do you have that are holding you back? Are you aware of what they are and of how they’re limiting you today?

The reality is that most of us aren’t consciously aware of all of the limitations we have that aren’t truly “us.” We tend to just feel that “this is who I am,” and we have beliefs about ourselves that we feel are simply facts. Beliefs such as “I’m just not that smart,” or “I’m not a good enough person,” or “I’m not that likeable.”

But the reality is that each of us are capable of much more than we could ever imagine, when we’re able to release the core limitations that are holding us back.

The 7th annual Tapping World Summit starts TODAY,  Mon Feb 23rd.  A FREE 10 day online event sponsored by Nick Ortner and The Tapping Solution.  Over 1,000,000 people, including me, have participated over the past 6 years!  Listen for 24 hours for FREE or buy the recordings.  It’s not too late to sign up.   It’s a way to safely dip your toe in the tapping water…

Click HERE to learn more about the summit.   Happy tapping!

Hugs!
Gwen

PS:  SPECIAL BONUS… SAVE 20%

PLUS, if you are a women entrepreneur and you’d like a SPECIAL BONUS, tapping with myself and Your Strongest LifeEmotional Freedom coaching…  during the 10 days of the Summit only, you will receive a 20% DISCOUNT on the following phone packages.  Simply email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com to sign up:

  • NEWBIES:  One hour introductory phone session  (SAVE $15)
  • WANT TO GO DEEPER?  6 Weeks to Tapping into Your Stress-Free Life    (SAVE $150)

Limited space available so please e-mail me TODAY at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com to save your spot!  I look forward to helping you gain some  emotional freedom!!

Happy Tapping!

How Do You Know What to Tap About?

How Do You Know What to Tap About?

Watch for the 10-day SPECIAL below…

How Do You Know
What to Tap About?

Happy  Tuesday!  I hope you are having a wonderful day!

However, even when things are going pretty good there always seems to be those nagging little things that keep us off balance, right?  Those things that we are worried about.  Those annoying little things that we complain to our friends about...

Well, that’s EXACTLY what we can tap about!  I believe that we’ve gotten so used to being filled with anxiety and stressed out that we barely even notice it anymore.  In fact, some women even wear it as a badge of honor these days.  However, it’s doing a lot of damage to our physical and emotional well being!

Many women  tend to associate EFT Tapping with Therapy and feel like they are afraid to check it out because of the shame or embarrassment they feel about it.  Actually, as I tell people all the time, EFT tapping is a bit like taking a shower or brushing your teeth.  It’s become sort of a daily routine for me.  (If not daily, at least several times a week.)   Three minutes here, 5 minutes there, 20 minutes or an hour when I have something to really get to the heart of and clear.

What  are you complaining to your friends about?

  • What are the conversations with your friends filled with?
  • What are the worries that keep you from a good night sleep?
  • Are you concerned about a family member, a co-worker or a friend?
  • Having some problems with your career?
  • Are you having some health issues that you are a bit nervous about?
  • What is causing that uneasy feeling in your gut?
  • What is causing your frequent headaches?
  • The tenseness in your neck and shoulders?

Would you like to learn how to recognize when you body is in stress and when it’s not, and what to do about it when it is?  Learn how EFT Tapping can be a daily life saver.

Try it Out for Yourself and SAVE 20%:

I invite you to check out the 7th Annual Tapping World Summit, a FREE 10-day online event sponsored by Nick Ortner and The Tapping Solution.  It starts on Monday Feb 23rd.  Over 1,000,000 people have participated over the past 7 years!   It’s a way to get a safe overview of what EFT is really about before you might be brave enough to stick your toe in the tapping water.

Check out the Tapping World Summit HERE.

Happy Tapping!

Hugs!
Gwen

PS   WAIT!!  Before you go…

To support the work of The Tapping World Summit,  I’d like to offer you a SPECIAL tapping with Your Strongest Life Emotional Freedom coaching …    During the 10 days of the Summit you will receive a 20% DISCOUNT on the following phone packages:

  • NEWBIES:  One hour introductory phone session  (SAVE $15 /ONLY $60)
  • WANT TO GO DEEPER?  6 Weeks to Tapping into Your Stress-Free Life    (SAVE $150 / 6 Sessions PLUS powerful homework for ONLY $600)

Limited space available so please e-mail me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com today to save your spot!  I look forward to sharing some emotional freedom with you!!