Original Pain work involves Nature’s Own Healing Process… Grief, the Healing Feeling

Original Pain work involves Nature’s Own Healing Process… Grief, the Healing Feeling

“What I didn’t know was that I needed to embrace my heartbroken little boy’s loneliness and unresolved grief about his lost father, his lost family, and his lost childhood.  I had to embrace my original pain.”

~John Bradshaw, author Homecoming

Friends:  “The good news is that original pain work involves nature’s own healing process.  Grief is the healing feeling.  We will heal naturally if we are just allowed to grieve.”

Feeling is Healing“Grief involves the whole range of human emotions. The original pain is an accumulation of unresolved conflicts whose energy has snowballed over time.  The wounded inner child is frozen because there was no way they could do their grief work.  All of their emotions were bound by toxic shame.   We came to believe that we could not depend on our primary caregiver.  In fact, we came to believe that we had no right to depend on anyone.  Isolation and the fear of depending on anyone are two of the main consequences of toxic shame.”

“For your wounded inner child to come out of hiding, they must be able to trust that you will be there for them.  Your inner child also needs a supportive, non-shaming ally to validate their abandonment, neglect, abuse, and enmeshment.”

Reading the above in John Bradshaw’s book Homecoming, he clearly describes what is needed to heal original pain, the pain that happens to us prior to the age of 8 when our brain is in a hypnotic state absorbing everything that we see, hear and feel directly into our subconscious mind.    EFT tapping is such a gentle, effective and relatively quick way to process the grief and shame that your inner child has been subconsciously hiding behind for so many years. In my own personal inner work and as an Inner Child Advocate I have experienced a “supportive, non-shaming ally” working with other EFT practitioners and have been one for my clients.  How could you benefit from being able to release that from your body once and for all?

Have you ever been going though your adult life and out of no where your emotional buttons got pushed?   In a nano-second, your body was filled with intense emotions, could be fear, shame, grief, guilt, sadness… you name it.  And typically you don’t even know where it came from or how to deal with it.  My experience and understanding is that it is the inner childhood wounds that have been stored in our bodies, not gone just hidden in our subconscious mind. The most important part to understand is that when those emotional buttons get triggered and we have an emotional outburst of some kind, our emotions are at the same age level as they were during the original “trauma” or pain (feelings of helplessness, powerlessness and overwhelm).  So for instance, if you had a shaming experience at age 4 it was tucked away in your subconscious because it was just too painful to deal with.  When something triggers that shame button as an adult, however, you instantly FEEL it as if you were a 4 year old again.  That’s why it’ feels so dramatic and painful!

Remember, EFT work is NOT talk therapy, it’s like emotional acupuncture without needles.  We use our own fingertips to gently focus on and clear the limiting emotions that are keeping us stuck.

Being STUCK in your emotional past is expensive…  Emotional Freedom is priceless!  

Hugs!   Gwen 

PS  Please share your thoughts below.  There is healing in the interaction, finding out that you aren’t alone after all.  Many, many women experience the same feelings you have, or are, struggling with — I’m one of them!  However most of us have lived a lifetime feeling too ashamed to talk about it.  This is a safe place to share.

 

The world is crowded with lonesome, fearful, and hurt Inner Children

The world is crowded with lonesome, fearful, and hurt Inner Children

“Little Maggie”, about 4 years old, is sitting in the middle of a playground. She is sad and desperately lonesome. “Little Anna” is trapped in the gingerbread house, immobilized by fear. And “Little Kurt” is hiding in his room and refuses to come out, ever.  cef9968eaa098b5f8ba4b2b73a7a0879

Friends:  The world is crowded with lonesome, fearful, and hurt Inner Children.  People were unappreciated, abandoned, or abused in their childhood. EFT can make a real difference in such a person’s life often in just a few sessions.  EFT is usually rapid, long-lasting and gentle. No need for drugs or equipment. It is easily learned by anyone.

Even though Little Maggie is sad and lonesome because nobody wants to play with her… Even though Little Anna is scared to death of the witch… Even though Little Kurt does not want to leave his room because nobody cares about how he feels anyway… Even though Little Rose has this horror of being locked in a dark closet stuck in her throat… Even though Freddie wants to throw up because his stepfather does not want him… Even though Little Pat’s heart burns like hell…

Often real memories pop up when we tap on the Inner Child images: When “Karen” met her Inner Child, she saw a little girl hiding in her room, full of dread and fear. The most intense feeling was “being worthless.” She reported tension in her chest and stomach. The SUD level was at a 7 (the term ‘SUD’ stands for Subjective Unit of Distress). Immediately, a memory popped up: When she was about 5 years old, she was taken to her grandparents, where she had dinner. When she tipped her plate and spilled food, her mother scolded her: “Can’t you do anything right!” Several rounds of tapping brought the feeling of being worthless to a SUD level of 0 to 1. We then moved to other memories with the theme “worthlessness”.

After tapping on the feelings of the Inner Child and working with any real memories that came up, I ask how the little one is feeling now. More often than not, the whole inner scenery has changed. The adult person is hugging and comforting the child, and they start talking or taking action to change the situation. It was a huge relief for “Kurt”, when his little boy finally opened the door and left the room he had been hiding in for a very long time.

Although there still might be some feelings of hurt and abandonment, the Inner Child usually starts to hug and play, once the adult made the connection. No longer is it merely painful to visit this archetype, but it is also perceived as a source of joy and wonder. The most rewarding moment for me comes when somebody discovers that their Inner Child is not weak and powerless, but a strong and courageous little person that did the best she or he could to survive in a hostile environment.  EFT is Superman when it comes to rescuing Inner Children!

The above was taken from an article titled Healing the Wounded Inner Child with EFT written by Carna Zacharias-Miller, an EFT practitioner who specializes in  working with clients who have experienced a Missing Mother in FL.  I feel like she’s described very well what happens when we are able to use EFT to help heal our wounded inner child.  I know because that is exactly what EFT has done for me.  I’m soo thankful that I was finally introduced to EFT 7 years ago in my early 50’s.  It’s made a world of difference in my own life in addition to many, many clients.  My favorite part of all of this is that “the whole inner scenery changes” and something that was terrifying and completely controlling me at age 5, I’m now able to see and feel it from an adults perspective, in a completely different and significantly calmer and more relaxed way…often in a very short time.  We are actually able to help our inner child safely “process” the emotions of those experiences, that may have been STUCK for years, so we can stop repeating them over and over in our adult lives.  If you’ve read all the self help books, tried talk therapy and everything else to get some relief yet nothing else has seemed to work I highly recommend checking out EFT tapping. 

Done over the phone from the comfort and privacy of your own home or office.  Simply email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com for more information.

Big hugs!  Gwen

Inner childhood fear is expensive….  Emotional Freedom is priceless!

 

PS  Please share your thoughts below.  We all have wounded inner children whether we are consciously aware of them or not and by sharing your thoughts it allows others to see that they truly aren’t alone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why Inner Child Work has been the Hallmark of Trauma Resolution for so Long….

Why Inner Child Work has been the Hallmark of Trauma Resolution for so Long….

*|FNAME|*   I just listened to an amazing interview on the Hay House Summit last week, Overcoming the Past: Trauma, the Shadow, and the Inner Child with a woman I’ve never heard of before, Teal Swan, internationally recognized spiritual leader and influential new voice in the field of metaphysics.  I was thrilled to hear her talk about exactly what I know to be true using EFT very effectively as an Inner Child Advocate.

I’d like to share some of what she said because  I love the way she explains it by describing the value and benefit TO YOU as an adult about doing this deep work.

“In the beginning of our lives we experience the world through FELT perception, that is we are FEELING the world much more than we are THINKING about the world.  We begin to really start THINKING about the world and become cognitive beings at about 8 years old.    So at about 8 years old we develop the capacity to think our way out of problems and thus the trauma we experience does not become embedded within the system.”  (She explained that we all experience trauma).

[NOTE: Trauma, according to Dr. Robert Scaer MD, trauma specialist, can be anything that causes us to FEEL helpless, powerless or overwhelmed.  How many of us HAVE NOT experienced trauma when you think about it that way?  Not very darn many of us, right?]

“This is really revolutionary so what I’m about to say a lot of people are gonna have a lot of resistance to to begin with but I recommend that you stay open…

All of the trauma that we have experienced reflects out into our lives as adults happened prior to age 8.” 

“You might say wait a minute!  This doesn’t make sense cuz you’ve got people returning from war having war flashbacks.  I’ve worked with plenty of these people.  What you find is that when you trace back to the original trauma it’s never the war, it’s always some circumstance they went through in childhood. 

Here’s an example from one of my clients:  (WARNING, possible trauma triggering alert!)  “You’ve got a soldier who is really traumatized because he was in a situation in Iraq where they were all shot at and they had to basically duck and hide.  He essentially couldn’t get to his best friend in the unit who was then shot in front of him. So now in his adult life he is having all kinds of flashbacks and just can’t function.  He was  barely leaving the house when I started working with him.  When we took him back to that trauma… we went back even further.  When was the first time that you felt this particular feeling?, I asked.”

“He was in fact 2 years old stuck in his playpen and his favorite brother was getting beaten up by his new step brother.”

“So the experience he had in the war was an experience that was brought into his life virtue of the Law of Attraction which was nothing but a reflection of that prior trauma that happened at age 2.  The one that actually needed resolution was that circumstance, that memory where he was 2 years old. That was what we had to take him back to and help him reintegrate.”

[NOTE: You may be asking how can she compare the trauma of war to that of being stuck in your playpen at age 2?  Remember “FELT perception” vs “THOUGHT.”  The childhood trauma was stored in his body as a feeling, an emotion from the perception of a 2 year old — helplessness, powerlessness AND overwhelm — that needed processing.  It wasn’t so he carried it to the war with him where it was re-triggered.  He was a physical adult but the wound was from his inner child, the 2 year old.]

“Basically all of our trauma that we are trying to resolve in adulthood is childhood trauma.  That is why doing inner child work has been the hallmark of trauma resolution for so long.  It absolutely works!”

However, as she continued sharing, she talked about our limited understanding of how emotion works.  “It’s the emotional aspect of the inner child that is so  unresolved.”

“It’s like we are parachuting ourselves into inner child work and instantly rescuing the child out of the circumstance without first validating the emotions that the child is FEELING.  If we were to take our adult selves in with that child who was 2 years old in the playpen we wound have to first say you are totally right to feel this powerless and this terrified.  We have to essentially validate how the child FEELS and THAT enables the emotion to begin to move forward, like fixing a CD so it’s no longer skipping.  It’s beginning to play again because we typically skip over that step so we keep having to come back to the same [traumatic] memory over and over again and we just can’t get past it because we tend to disapprove of emotions more than anything else [we are afraid of them because we don’t know how to resolve them, we don’t know how to integrate them and we don’t know what to do with them].  That’s what we have to do first before we ever try to rescue the kid or try to improve the circumstance.”

I don’t’ know if Teal uses EFT or not but I do know that with EFT tapping processing, resolving and neutralizing those traumatic FEELINGS and emotions that have been buried in our bodies, sometimes for YEARS and YEARS, causing our emotional buttons to continue getting triggered are EXACTLY what we are able to do in a gentle and safe way so we can stop them from coming back

Remember, EFT work is NOT talk therapy so we are able to more gently focus on the FEELINGS much more than the words.  If you are interested in trying EFT out via the phone from the comfort and privacy of your own home please email me at gwen@yourstrongestlife.com for your Introductory session for ONLY $47. 

Being STUCK in your emotional past is expensive…  Emotional Freedom is priceless!  

Hugs!

Gwen

PS  Please share your thoughts below with other readers.  You’ll be surprised at how similarly we all think even though we think everyone else has their shit together and we are the only ones who are emotionally screwed up!  SMILE 

 

 

 

 

 

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Was Your Mom a Daddyless Daughter?  How is that Effecting You Today?

Was Your Mom a Daddyless Daughter? How is that Effecting You Today?

Who was there FOR you as an infant?

Who held you when you were scared or crying? 

As I was reading in my book Homecoming:  Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child this morning by John Bradshaw, that sentence jumped off the screen at me!  Who was there FOR you as an infant?Who held you when you were scared or crying?  I thought back and didn’t remember anyone being there to hold me when I was scared or crying.  I did remember, however, when I was upset and crying as a very little girl my mom would tell me sternly that I was only crying to get attention and to stop.  I didn’t know the words back then but it felt very shaming.  Like there was something wrong with me for even being upset so to survive I learned to shut down.  As I got older that shut down feeling became making a joke to protect myself. Can you relate?

cry25n-3-webI kept reading….

“The more ashamed a child is, the more she feels she has no right to DEPEND on anyone.  Because the wounded child never got her needs met and was shamed the most when she was the most needy, she may feel that she is bothering people if she asked them to listen to her.

Whew, BINGO!  That was it exactly!  That’s how I felt.  Can you relate?

I started thinking about my Happy Mother’s Day post to my Mom the other day and wondering if my Mom ever had anyone there for her when she was scared or crying as a little girl.  I know my grandma, her mom, even though she passed before I was born, sounded like she was a pretty tough lady, kind of hard as nails!  Not very warm and fuzzy at all!!

Then I remembered that I had recently realized that my Mom had been, as Iyanla Vanzant on the OWN channel, calls a “daddyless daughter.”   Her dad was an alcoholic and her mom left and lived as a single mom raising 7 kids by herself in the 1920’s and 1930’s.  Oh my goodness!  I’m not sure how old my mom was when they split up but I can only imagine how tough it must have been for her.  It was very tough in the 1980’s when I was a single mom with only two kids!!  I don’t even know if my mom ever saw her dad as she was growing up or not.  I knew all of this at some level but I never stopped to think about how that may have affected and impacted her ability to be a mother to me until now.

I went to a youtube video by Iyanla and watched her talking about daddyless daughters.  She described that when a woman doesn’t have a daddy, either when they are there but not emotionally there, they are gone entirely or they were there but left because of divorce etc it creates a hole and a yearning that nothing ever seems to fill.  They feel UNwanted, UNloved, UNloveable, UNacceptable, UNimportant, UNattractive and UNworthy.  It’s all starting to make so much more sense now… that this is the women that I was so desperate to depend on and get my needs met from.  I can imagine that when she felt me being needy it triggered her own neediness and it must have been so very painful for her.  No wonder she treated me the way she did.  No wonder “I” felt like there was no one there for “me” when I was scared or crying because she felt like there was no one there for “her.”

I so appreciate the past 7 years of using EFT for myself (often with the help of others) so I can put together these puzzle pieces of my life now.  Before EFT I was so caught in the painful feelings and the wounds of that little child inside of me that I couldn’t see or feel anything else.  It was all about me.  There was no way I could have ever felt safe enough to see it in a way that I no longer felt like a victim and to be able to see it from my mom’s perspective.

I’d love for you to share what popped up for you while reading my story below.

We so often think that we are so screwed up and everyone else has their shit together but I’m here to tell you that we are all in this together.  We have much more in common when we talk about our wounded inner child than we can imagine.

Until next time… hugs!

Gwen

 

 

 

Happy Mothers Day Mom.

Happy Mothers Day Mom.

Happy Mothers Day Mom. I decided to write a list of the things i appreciate about you today. (This feels very odd and foreign b/c I’ve spent a lifetime focusing on what you did wrong and how badly you hurt and upset me). Its time to take a look at the other side of the coin…

yellow roses–I appreciate that you thought it was so important to come to be with me at school during the movie “Its Wonderful Being a Woman.”

–I appreciate that you came with my class when i took my first train ride.

–I appreciate that you were clean and taught me to keep my body clean (even tho I’ve rebelled a bit from your OCD ways in other parts of my life. 😊)

–I appreciate that you often smelled of Jergen’s lotion when i was little.

–I appreciate that you learned to drive when you were 53 years old.

–I appreciate that you and Daddy stayed married for 37 years until Daddy passed when i was 17 and i didn’t have to have divorced parents.

–I appreciate that you “wore the pants” in the family way back then and gave me a role model as a strong woman.

–I appreciate you having me when you were 42 when my siblings were 18, 17 & 14.

–I appreciate your stories of psychics, psychic phenomena and reincarnation.

–I appreciate you (and Daddy) teaching me how to recycle and compost waay before it was popular.

–I appreciate you working at the hospital cafeteria when i was little and buying me things like my new bed and making me a matching bedspread and curtains with your money.

–Thank you for sewing me Barbie doll clothes.

–Thank you for showing me how important it is to vote by dressing up to do it.

–Thank you for working so hard to make delish homemade chicken and noodles for special dinners.

–Thank you for making homemade raspberry jam, applesauce, apple butter, apple pies and canned green beans from our fruit trees and garden.

–Thank you for liking the color yellow.

What a funny experience, the more I write the more warm memories about my mom are coming out of the woodwork… 😊 Thank you EFT for helping me to be able to naturally go there.  Healing our inner childhood wounds is priceless!! 

I 💛 you Mom, Happy Mothers Day!

AH-HA…. JUST START!!

just StartAfter posting this to my Facebook page this morning, feeling oddly calm and serene, because I know how many years I’ve worked to get to this point in my relationship with my mom, I turned to page 113 in my book Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw and started to read…. As I eagerly absorbed page by page information about the wounded inner child… 

  • The more I read, the more validated I felt.

  • The more I read, the more I KNEW in my heart that this is what I am meant to do and how many ways my wounded inner child has stopped me

  • The more I read, the more I realized just how much I LOVE being an Inner Child Advocate and using EFT Tapping to help myself and others heal their own wounded inner child so they stop controlling our adult lives.

Then I started thinking about a conversation I’d had with my adult daughters last weekend about how I see the world and what I naturally think of when someone is struggling with something in their lives... they both said “oh, I don’t even think about that!”  

AH-HA, it hit me like a ton of bricks!! 

Perhaps sharing the steps I’ve taken (an am still taking b/c I’m a work in progress) to help heal my own wounded inner child could be beneficial for others

Perhaps others simply can’t see what I see because they don’t think about things the same way as I do.

Perhaps sharing with others what I experience and observe, from my perspective, might be beneficial in helping them understand what’s happening in their own lives and how  they could potentially benefit from using EFT Tapping.

Then the words, “JUST START” from transformational comedian Kyle Cease instantly came to me!

JUST START…

What if I simply do what I do every morning… read, journal, & tap as my own Inner Child Advocate… and share my journey with you?  Sort of like a Tapping Reality show.  LOL!  OK, please consider this my START!

If you are interested in continuing to read my posts please do nothing and they will automatically start coming to you as an email.  If this does not sound like your cup of tea, and it’s not a good fit, that’s fine, you can easily UPDATE your information or UNSUBSCRIBE by scrolling to the bottom of the page.

I’d love to hear your feed back along the way.  Please make comments and ask questions below.  Let’s have a conversation!

Warmly,

Gwen

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UNLOCK Your Invisible Money Blocks

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Hugs!
Gwen

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GOT STRESS?  The Stress Test Study That Shocked  the Researchers…

GOT STRESS? The Stress Test Study That Shocked the Researchers…

8th Annual Tapping World Summit

starts Feb 22nd

Join 20 of the World’s leading EFT Tapping Experts in this FREE Online Event as They Show you Step by Step How to Improve Your Finances, Health, Emotions and Much More…

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The Stress Test Study That Shocked the Researchers…

“75 to 90% of all doctor visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.”

~WebMD

*|FNAME|*  GOT STRESS?  As the quote above states anxiety and stress are one of the biggest underlying causes of doctor visits and health issues.  The following study was performed by Dr. Dawson Church, PhD and Dr. David Feinstein, PhD, and measured the stress hormone cortisol levels before and after treatment.  They were shocked at the results.  I have personally used EFT Tapping for myself and hundreds of clients over the past 7 years and I can attest to it’s emotional effectiveness!  Now here are the numbers…

“83 participants were divided into 3 groups: the 1st group received an hour of  EFT Tapping; the 2nd group received an hour of psychotherapy (“talk” therapy); the 3rd group (control group) received no treatment.

The researchers measured cortisol levels before and after the treatment. Cortisol was measured because it is known as the “stress hormone” of the body. As stress goes up, cortisol levels go up.

When the researchers were measuring the cortisol levels of the Tapping group after treatment they thought they had a problem…

The levels had dropped so significantly in such a short period of time that they thought there must be something wrong with their equipment.

They kept re-calibrating their equipment and retesting until they finally came to the conclusion that there was in fact…nothing wrong with their equipment but rather that…the Tapping worked!

Results: The 1st group (Tapping) demonstrated a 24% decrease in cortisol levels; the 2nd and 3rd groups showed no change in cortisol levels.

The reality: Psychotherapy alone relieves stress, but over a long period of time. The immediate benefits of psychotherapy don’t register in your body, where excessive amounts of the “stress hormone” cortisol still run rampant, putting your health at risk.

Study findings:  Tapping balances activity between the sympathetic and parasympathetic regions of your brain, producing “a neutral emotional state,” the gold standard of health and wellness.”
~ The Tapping Solution

Stress is expensive….
Emotional Freedom is priceless!

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Hugs!   Gwen

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GOT STRESS?  The Stress Test Study That Shocked the Researchers…

GOT STRESS? The Stress Test Study That Shocked the Researchers…

8th Annual Tapping World Summit
starts Feb 22nd


Join 20 of the World’s leading EFT Tapping Experts in this FREE Online Event as They Show you Step by Step How to Improve Your Finances, Health, Emotions and Much More…

This event is 100% content only and 100% free to attend during the 10 days.

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The Stress Test Study That Shocked the Researchers…

“75 to 90% of all doctor visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.”

~WebMD

 

GOT STRESS?  As the quote above states anxiety and stress are the biggest underlying causes of doctor visits and health issues today.  Stress permeates so many areas of our lives, our health, our emotions, our relationships, our jobs, our finances and sabotages our overall quality of life.  What if it didn’t have to be that way?

The following study was performed by Dr. Dawson Church, PhD and Dr. David Feinstein, PhD, and measured the stress hormone cortisol levels before and after treatment.  They were shocked at the results.  I have personally used EFT Tapping for myself and hundreds of clients over the past 7 years and I can attest to it’s emotional effectiveness!  Now here are the numbers…

“83 participants were divided into 3 groups: the 1st group received an hour of  EFT Tapping; the 2nd group received an hour of psychotherapy (“talk” therapy); the 3rd group (control group) received no treatment.

The researchers measured cortisol levels before and after the treatment. Cortisol was measured because it is known as the “stress hormone” of the body. As stress goes up, cortisol levels go up.

When the researchers were measuring the cortisol levels of the Tapping group after treatment they thought they had a problem…

The levels had dropped so significantly in such a short period of time that they thought there must be something wrong with their equipment.

They kept re-calibrating their equipment and retesting until they finally came to the conclusion that there was in fact…nothing wrong with their equipment but rather that…the Tapping worked!

Results: The 1st group (Tapping) demonstrated a 24% decrease in cortisol levels; the 2nd and 3rd groups showed no change in cortisol levels.

The reality: Psychotherapy alone relieves stress, but over a long period of time. The immediate benefits of psychotherapy don’t register in your body, where excessive amounts of the “stress hormone” cortisol still run rampant, putting your health at risk.

Study findings:  Tapping balances activity between the sympathetic and parasympathetic regions of your brain, producing “a neutral emotional state,” the gold standard of health and wellness.”
~ The Tapping Solution

Stress is expensive….
Emotional Freedom is priceless!

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Interested in learning more about EFT Tapping?
  I invite  you to join us on the emotional freedom journey….   sign up to receive our  Your Strongest Life Emotional Freedom coaching newsletter TODAY. www.yourstrongestlife.com

1 hour of EFT = 100 hours of talk therapy/ counseling. 

Sound too good to be true?  Check it out for yourself.  What have you got to lose except a lot of stress?

I look forward to helping you on your emotional freedom journey!

Hugs!   Gwen

 

 

 

Understanding the Wounded Child Archtype – Can you relate?  I sure can!

Understanding the Wounded Child Archtype – Can you relate? I sure can!

As some of you know, I’ve been working on narrowing my niche for sometime.  I’m feeling wonderful about the work I do as an Inner Child Advocate.  Ever since I read about the Wounded Child archtype in Carolyn Myss’s book Sacred Contracts I felt completely drawn to it.  I AM a wounded child so that’s why I relate to it so strongly.  This is the work I’ve been doing but I had no idea on how to marketed it properly.  (most likely because my wounded inner child has been running my business for the past 6 years.  So afraid of making a mistake and getting in trouble.  So hard to deal with my shame of not feeling good enough…………

The more I’ve used tapping to nurture and take care of my wounded inner child the more enlightened and helpful I feel I can be.  Don’t’ get me wrong, I’m human and still a work in progress but it’s made a world of difference!

 

I’m so excited that I recently came across a beautiful description of the Wounded Child archtype written by Susanna Barlow.  I’ve edited her essay below a bit for clearer understanding for you but you can read it in it’s entirety by clicking HERE.

 

The Wounded Child archetype has experienced some kind of initiatory wound in their early life. This experience creates a lens through which the Wounded Child views their circumstances and the motives or actions of others. This usually happens at a fairly young age when the child is highly impressionable. his experience or string of experiences acts as an initiation inextricably linking the Wounded Child to the path they were meant to live. I call this the lens of pain.

This lens (created by the initial wound) through which all things are now experienced colors, defines and shapes the way the Wounded Child perceives their life.

The Wounded Child is easily caught up with the victim, getting stuck in the story of suffering, feeling hopeless, worthlessness and heaviness. Themes of rejection, failure, unworthiness and longing are all prevalent in this archetypal pattern. The wounded child can feel abandoned, misunderstood, unloved, uncared for, even by themselves. They are sensitive to the pain and emotions of others often to the point of confusing others emotions with their own.

The pain from this childhood wound will replay itself over and over in the adult life until the trauma or wound is tended to and healed. Only then can the inner child mature and develop the gifts that are inherent to the Wounded Child archetype. For example, if you were bullied at school or picked on by siblings, cousins or other peers you will continue to feel bullied as an adult by co-workers, friends and other peer groups. If you were abused by a parent or an adult you may feel abused by your boss at work, the IRS, the government or any other perceived authority figure. Your reactions to this perception will match the way you coped with the abuse or bullying as a child. If you were sexually abused as a child you may perceive your spouse or partner through the highly distorted lens of your own sexual abuse. You will recreate the dynamics experienced in childhood with you as the victim. If you suffered a handicap as a child and needed constant care you will recreate the dynamics of invalid and caretaker in one of your personal relationships.

 

The Shadow Wounded Child

  • always looking backward, remembering both good and bad memories and somehow transforming them all into a painful melancholy.
  • running from his or her past and feels  haunted by the heaviness of memory.
  • blames the wound or wounding on much of their adult life problems.
  • looking backwards & creates if only phrases like:  If only I wasn’t sickly I would be able to do more & contribute, If only I had been loved and cared about I might have turned out better, If only I had been treated with respect I wouldn’t be so angry all the time, If only that hadn’t never happened to me my life would be better
  • Fear of change:  if they heal their wounds their life will change. Change equals loss. Loss is unbearable. They already feel like they have lost something deep and intrinsic and therefore they are clinging to everything else.
  •  Fear of letting go:  Another of way of looking at this could be “fear of letting go.” Letting go of an old identity, letting go of your children or spouse, letting go of your anger and resentment, letting go of sadness or the victim role and letting go of how others perceive you are a few examples.
  • Feeling misunderstood:  They are easily offended and hurt and others often feel they have to “walk on egg shells” around them.   The intense need for others to understand them while simultaneously believing that others can never understand leaves them feeling emotionally raw or needy.
  • drawn to other people’s suffering and tragedies. A fascination or over-investment in someone else’ pain or heartache is an attempt to understand their own pain and heartache which is usually too overwhelming to confront.
  • feeling of brokenness sets up a pattern of shame; shame for being depressed, shame for being not good enough, weird, angry, resentful etc. This shame, unworthiness or hopelessness traps the Shadow Wounded Child

Sometimes the Shadow Wounded Child does not associate their painful story with the past but upon examination it will be obvious that their current thoughts are old stories created out of past beliefs and experiences thus making the stories (from today) feel irrefutably true.

 

 The Wounded Child is desperately seeking to understand the pain that seems to be lurking in the background or foreground of their life.

It may seem to others that the Wounded Child does not want to be healed, but the Wounded Child senses that the wounding of their life has some value, some unnameable worth that causes them to keep the wound open and raw.

I want to be loved. . .

I want to be loved. . . is the story of the wounded child. I want to be valued and important. I want to matter to someone and be seen by others as worthy. All of these are shadow aspects of the Wounded Child because the Wounded Child cannot make others love them or see their true worth. This leaves them feeling continuously needy of others love and acceptance and they seem to never get enough of it. They want to give  to others but feel that the wound prevents them from being able to give so they get stuck in a cycle of want and emotional impoverishment.

The Enlightened Wounded Child

Forgiveness:   Forgiveness or the need to forgive is a theme for the Wounded Child.

  • Forgiveness is what happens when you stop rejecting what you believe to be the cause of your suffering.
  • Forgiveness is opening up to the bad thing and allowing it in. You may be surprised to find relief in this and that it in no way diminishes the pain but actually validates it in a way that nothing else does.
  • The Enlightened Wounded Child has a tender and open heart. This makes them open to wounding but it also makes them open to forgiveness.
  • For the Enlightened Wounded Child forgiveness is a way of life. Forgiving the past, forgiving the hurt and forgiving the losses or in other words making room for the past, making room for the hurt and making room the losses means you don’t exactly let it go as much as you widen your capacity to hold it and end the resistance to it.

 Standing in the Fire

The Enlightened Wounded Child discovers that by entering the darkness of their pain and working through it, that they can stand in the fire of pain and not be burned. Their capacity to get close to others’ pain without getting caught up in it, makes them ideal healers, doctors, nurses, therapists and others in the healing arts. They are like mountain men who know a particular terrain and can be a guide for others who are passing through. But this mountain is where the Wounded Child lives and has made their peace. They have mastered the art of letting go, embracing intense emotions and being a channel for others to release their pain. Suffering, pain, sorrow, and depression are all places the Enlightened Wounded Child has been and is not afraid to revisit. Rather than avoiding it, the Enlightened Wounded Child embraces these “negative” aspects of the human experience. They learn that some wounds aren’t meant to be healed but to be understood. The darkness becomes depth and the pain is only a sharpener to maintain keenness and sensitivity. Compassion can then be developed and the Enlightened Wounded Child is deeply compassionate and caring.

The Gift of the Wound

 

Capacity to Love Others

In its shadow the Wounded Child is looking for others to love them but the Enlightened Wounded Child knows that what they really long for is giving love to others. I want to love is truer for the Wounded Child than I want to BE loved. Unconditional love is part of the Enlightened Wounded Child and therefore they are brimming with affection and compassion for others. They are usually the friend that others turn to for understanding and support. They have a strong desire to understand others deeply and are usually non-judgmental and openhearted. They have overcome their fears of rejection and know that they can handle whatever comes their way. The Enlightened Wounded Child has learned that to Give is to Get. Understanding others is the key to understanding themselves. Giving love allows the Wounded Child to feel and receive the love of others freely and unconditionally because they have learned to love who they are enough to share that love with others. The Wounded Child gains the sense of connection and belonging that they felt was denied them, when they can be who they truly are and to be authentic and real. Many a Wounded Child has felt ashamed of their wound, that it makes them less of a person when in reality it makes them more. They have more to give, more understanding and more tenderness, rather than less. The wound when properly recognized and confronted becomes a light of hope to themselves and the rest of the world.

Conclusion

When transformed from the shadow to the light the Wounded Child archetype is a powerful example of the resiliency of the human spirit. They are open, tender, vulnerable and wise. Their life experience has taught them that the pain that once dominated their life is the source of their compassion, their insight, depth and wisdom.

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Much love,

Gwen

PS  I used some of the tools I learned in the movie and added some EFT Tapping to it last night and this morning.  It was amazing in taking the next step in helping to heal that wounded inner child of mine!  As an Inner Child Advocate I look forward to sharing it with you next week…